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February Sweepstakes: Win a Revibe Connect

Enter to win a Revibe Connect — the discrete vibration reminder system that helps children with focus and attention issues to stay on task and boost their confidence naturally. To enter, just answer this question: What would you write to your child, your loved one, or yourself in a Valentine that celebrates their greatest ADHD attributes?

What I Love About You

ADHD is loud. It’s messy. And forgetful. And complicated. Sometimes, all of this noise has a way of drowning out — or distracting from — the really amazing, beautiful, and genuine traits that live alongside ADHD in our kids (and ourselves). The ‘good’ is overlooked. And that is a darn shame because the ‘good’ is really, really great.

So this February, let’s resolve to focus on the ‘good.’ Let’s send one Valentine — comment, note, or hug — to our kids and ourselves each day. Let’s practice love… and see if it catches on.

How Revibe Helps the Good Shine

Revibe is the watch that reminds students to get back to work. Instead of an embarrassing tap on the shoulder from their teacher, kids feel a gentle, automated ‘vibration reminder’ from Revibe on their wrist. This type of discreet redirection empowers students to complete their work independently, improving self-confidence and academic outcomes. Parents and teachers can track student progress with attention span and more on Revibe’s app.

Enter to Win a Revibe Connect PLUS

To win a Revibe Connect (a $149.99 value), use the Comments section below to tell us: What would you write to your child, your loved one, or yourself in a Valentine that celebrates their greatest ADHD attributes?

Deadline

Saturday, February 29, 2020, at 11:59 pm EST.

More About Revibe

Revibe was created by a school psychologist to help kids focus, and to provide easy-to-read, data-driven insight for how others can help. Our psychology-based tool has given students a chance to reach their full potential, and provided hope and support to parents and educators. Research for Revibe was funded in part by the U.S. Department of Education!

Rules

Only Comments posted with a valid email address will be considered valid entries. One entry per household per day. The editors of ADDitude will select two winners at random and notify them via email after Saturday, February 29, 2020.

130 Comments & Reviews

  1. Dear Clark William, the boy who 10 years ago made me a Mama, the role-model to your three siblings, even when they don’t want to admit it! 😉

    This last year, I have learned so many things about your beautiful mind! I knew you were filled with ideas and curiosity, but I also knew there was something holding you back from freedom and accepting yourself.

    You heart has always been so big and so open to including the left out, the shy, and the kids who might struggle in class. I never knew your silent struggle with add. When you learned your brain was not only capable of great things, but also wired in a way that was causing your frustrations, I saw the light in your eyes— you were not alone— you accepted this and have striven so patiently to advocate for yourself in class and at home. Beyond that, my sweet boy, you advocate for your classmates- you humbly show empathy without even knowing it – sharing your story of shame, depression and low self-esteem in order to bring them hope.

    I see you even now, as your poor attention to school work and organization there and at home are now sources which cause you to feel great shame and anger at yourself. Please don’t give up! We will find a way to help you, to encourage you, a way you can see you’re not “stuck” forever in this pattern! Your teachers believe in you as we do!

    Your Daddy and I- who you know have been challenged (and later empowered) by our own ADD, are in awe of you! From last Valentines to this one, you have grown monumentally and we are so proud of you! our prayer is that you are empowered by the way your brain is wired- that we can watch you as you unveil ways that this brain is going to be a huge blessing for you in ways you’ll never imagine!

    Happy Valentine’s Clarkie!

  2. Dear Valentine, I love you. I understand the frustrations you feel and I love all the gifted ways you find to deal with them. I admire your ability to find ways to adapt to this life so full of distractions. Let me hyperfocus on you today 🙂

  3. My dear valentine monster, you have definitely made life a challenge these past 8 years. Next fall you’ll be off to high school which will introduce another level of stress and struggles, but I know you’ll succeed because you are a very strong and determined young lady with a great deal of talent when your focused.
    “What you think
    YOU BECOME
    What you feel
    YOU ATTRACT
    What you imagine
    YOU CREATE”

  4. To my son Brady (my very first little Valentine),
    Each year in February I decorate your bedroom door with all of the things that I love about you. I love… your caring heart, your vivid imagination, your passion for doing the right thing, your love for your siblings, your love of reading, your love of Dinosaurs, your love for your family, your hard work (despite the sometimes daunting tasks ahead). You are perfect just the way you are. Having ADHD for you has been a struggle, but it has shown us what a strong, capable young man you are. If you can get through this- the sky is the limit for you. Happy Valentine’s Day my sweet boy. Love Mom

  5. J—-, I don’t really tell you enough how proud I am of you. The way you care for for your friends, your passion for music, for writing, for art, your endless curiosity— just about everything you do inspires me. I want to be more like you.

    I’m so glad to be your Dad.

  6. We are on a journey of discovery, not an arrival at a predetermined destination, too unique and wondrous to define in a few short letters, to squeeze into an acronym. There will be surprises along the way, we will undoubtedly take more detours and wrong turns as we go. But there will be adventures, suprises and pick-a-path moments, we will laugh and stumble and run without looking back. I do promise that no two days, hours, moments will be the same, my wildling and me.

  7. My Favorite Pirate,

    Your obsessive curiosity, your endless imagination, and your inability to stop makes for the most epic adventures any parent could want. I’ll always be your first mate, your co-pilot, or your moon rover driver! Never stop being you!

    Love,
    Mom

  8. My precious Bentley, almost 10 years ago you turned my world upside down and I thank God every day for you. I never knew how much I needed you or what an immense joy being your Nana would be. You are so full of energy, so curious, so wise and witty. You have a way, if people will let you, of turning boring things into an adventure. It saddens me that your creativity and kindness are so often overlooked because of your high energy. I know you want to be like other kids who can sit still and listen, if only just to make life easier for your family, but you are wonderful just the way you. I know you have great things to offer the world and God willing, I will be here cheering you on every step of the way. I love you so much! Nana

  9. Hey beautiful boy 😊
    I love you just the way you are. You are unique, loving, curious, loud, crazy sometimes 😜.
    You make our family fun by keeping us on our toes. I have learnt so much from you, and that has helped me with working with other children.
    You mean the world to me, son X

  10. Dear Lila,

    If you remember only one thing that I say to you, remember “I love you all the time.” I love you when you are mad. I love you when you are tired. I love you when you are scared. I love you when you are unfocused. I love you when you are snarky. I love you when you are sad. I love you when you lie. I love you can find the love for yourself. I love you when you scream.

    And I’ll love you when the storm passes.

    Remember that.

    Mom

  11. To the one who made me a mom,

    I am so proud to see the young man you are becoming. You are bright, caring and compassionate. My hope for you is to grow in confidence of who you are. I love you.

    Mom

  12. Dear Son,
    How you look on paper does not define who you are. You are kind, creative, curious, insightful, funny, and have so much knowledge inside you.

    Keep being you. You are wonderful; whether you’re feeling happy, sad, angry, messy, tired, bored, energized, whatever, it’s all human and it’s all okay.

  13. Dear Son,

    I will always remember the kindness of your eighth grade math teacher who wrote on your report card, “Not afraid to make mistakes.” She taught me how to turn a negative into a positive, and look for the good in everyone and everything. Here’s to “not being afraid to make mistakes” together.

    Love,
    Mom

  14. Dear Max,
    Love is looking at someone’s attributes and focusing on them.

    I love you creativity, your passion for building, your inquisitive nature, and your kindness.

    Keep doing you, Max. Because there is only one you.

    Love always,
    Mom

  15. My dearest Parker.
    The running joke while pregnant with you was that you had so much entertainment you were going to break out! Low and behold, you did, 3.5 months early and that was the basis that forged the most remarkable bond between a mother and her son! You’ve always been the boy to stand out and shine, and just like the sun among all those stars, you’re special, amazing and so very important!
    Your smile lights every room, your hugs melt all hearts. You are so kind and caring and so much fun to be around. You’ve known challenges others won’t understand, and your strength and determination are things to be proud of; I’m proud of you
    I love you to beyond the moon, past all those millions of miles to the sun and back. You make my heart grow! Will you be my valentine?
    Love Mom xoxo

  16. Dearest Charlotte,

    I love you more than words can say. You are fierce, independent, strong-willed, and determined. These traits often cause challenges for you in life and in our home but they are also the traits that will help you succeed and find your course in life. You are creative, imaginative, artistic, and expressive. You see things in this world that the rest of us miss. You hear things that most are too busy to notice. You can create whole worlds out of paper and make music sing from your fingers on an instrument. You may hate having ADHD but it’s not something you “have”, it’s your superpower to experience the world in a way the rest of us can only dream about. One day, when you’re grown, you will see the wonder that ADHD brought into your life. Until then, I will be beside you encouraging you, comforting you, and loving you through it all.
    All my love,
    Mummy

  17. To Me,
    You have learned a lot about yourself in the last couple of years. You have found a way to be an adult in this crazy world and you are succeeding!! Adulting is hard, having ADHD is hard, but you are thriving. I am proud of you and all that work you have put in to being the best adult you can be and also the best teacher. Your love and passion for your students is all that you need to be successful in the classroom and finding those little tricks to help you focus on the hard parts of teaching are working!! You can be an inspiration to the kiddos in your classroom that have the same struggles as you and you can show them success! Also your quirks are what make you the person and teacher that you are and always will be. They are strengths not weaknesses.
    LOVE YOURSELF

  18. To my beautiful little tornado Monica… We love you to the moon and back. We love your humor and creativity. You are independent, strong-willed, and determined and that will help you succeed and find your course in life. Please keep it up, all the sacrifices will get payed latter. Also never change your way of been just cause others tell you, and cause your brain is wired a little different then others. Good made it that way with a purpose. And never forget, we are here for good an bad.. together we are strong…Happy valentine!!!

  19. My sweet “Yaya”, Valentine!! I love you so much and I love watching your beautiful, creative brain at work! You have so many talents to offer the world and I hope you always remember that. Your ADHD does not define you, it just adds to what makes you YOU! I see you embracing your creative side more and more and I’m excited to see what else comes from it. Never stop being you! Love, mom

  20. To my Carter – I love you. I need you to know you are perfect! You’re ability to get excited about even the littlest things is amazing. I love your enthusiasm and the way everything is the “best ever.” You help me to appreciate things in my life everyday. And I appreciate you every second of every day.

  21. I love you since you were created. You are a loving,caring, happy child. I see the struggles you go thru in all the days. We are learning to help you cope. You have taught me how to be a better mother. I love you so much. You are teaching me how do handle things that I don’t know how to deal with. I watch how you are go getter and is how proud you get when you accomplish things. I wish I could be like you. Keep reaching for your dreams. No words can tell you how much I love you. Don’t let anything or anyone stop you accomplish your dream. Happy Valentine!!

  22. To my beautiful little hurricane with a little bit of Sunshine,
    You are an amazing girl inside and out! I love everything about you! You are intellectually gifted with a side of ADHD which makes you such and amazing human. I love how you are independent and very strong willed (even if at the time it does not seem that way), I love how you love people and all animals with no limits, I love how you are so creative with everything you do – Art, Music, even playing with your little brother, I love your sass, and I love how you are always making me see the world just a little differently. Together we have been through a lot of changes but the one constant that will ALWAYS be is that I LOVE YOU ALWAYS. I know that sometimes you feel that having ADHD makes you different, but really it gives you so many advantages! As a mommy who also has ADHD, I promise you that having a brain that is wired differently then someone else makes you so unique and special. There is NO DOUBT in my mind that God put you here, just as you are TO CHANGE THE WORLD someday! I will be right there cheering you on and supporting you! I love you Emilee. Love Mommy

  23. Hey Wacko, I see you. I know that it’s hard to sit still and be on point all day. It’s hard to remember to do all that the world asks.

    I see you. I see your silliness, your competitiveness, your soft heart, your intelligence (it blows my mind, thank you ADHD).
    I am so proud to be your mom, you’ll always be my baby. Even if you’re now taller than me. I will always have a hug, time for a calm conversation when you need my counsel and a fiercely loyal love for you. You are my heart walking around in this world.

    You’re my favorite Valentine and that just makes my heart wanna explode. But since that would be gross I think I’ll just squeeze you instead.

    Hugs and kisses till you push me away,
    Mom

  24. To my beautiful, noisy, silly, smart and complex boy,

    Do you know how loved you are? Though there may be challenging moments in our days, I want you to know how important you are. The world is a better place just because you’re in it. Frustration, disappointment and self-doubt are parts of life–obstacles we all encounter. But they come and go and need not control you. You may not realize it yet, but your gifts are great and your talents are abundant. And though school may not feel like “your place,” that place is out there and we will find it. I hope that home will always be somewhere you can be yourself. And that at the end of every single day–whether we’ve yelled a little to much or not–you feel how much we love you.

    I’m so proud of you for who you are today and for who you will be tomorrow.

    Thank you for being you and for pushing me to be a better me.

    Love,
    Momma

  25. Dear Katie, Life has a way of giving you what you need even when you don’t know that you need it. I think that our family needed your sassy, free spirited attitude, your love of life, and your beautiful loving and giving spirit. In the beginning, when we didn’t know what was going on with you, it was scary. And there are still days when you find yourself having issues with focusing and listening to directions. There are days when my patience is not what I wish it was with you. But at the end of every day, when I snuggle with you and put you to sleep, I think to myself how lucky we are to have you as our daughter. As I always tell you, “We love you so much, no matter what!” Love always, Mom

  26. Dear Punkin-Cakes(I’m not saying it out loud, in public),
    I’ve been your grandmother/mom since you were just a little guy. You came to me with itchy skin from allergies that had not been identified and asthma that was eventually brought under control with a variety of medicines: inhalers, nasal sprays, & chewable pills. After dozens of trips to the doctor, you were finally old enough to be tested for allergies and I will never forget the day we found out that one of the several things you are allergic to is “peanut butter”. You were about seven years old and on your way to your first summer day camp, when we stopped by the doctor’s office on the way. The doctor read the list of things you were allergic to, but it was when she said “…peanut butter…” that you broke down and literally wept causing your doctor and I to become teary eyed. I replaced your camp lunch of peanut butter and jelly sandwich with a “Happy Meal” which brought some consolation and from that day on and we continued to make adjustments.

    You started first grade in the fall but had a difficult time. It was then that “I wept” after you were evaluated by the school and another doctor and I was told that you had “ADHD”. After doing lots of research, (the ATTITUDE magazine and articles I read were(are) a great help) and trying different suggested remedies, we finally settled on a medicine that I felt comfortable giving you.

    You are now fourteen and about to graduate from eighth grade and begin high school. The road has not been easy. We’ve had some ups and downs, some missteps and mistakes.But with the help and love of your extended family members and church family, the patience and encouragement of your teachers,(especially those you have now),the consultation of your doctors,and the articles and videos of ATTITUDE…I am confident that
    as you and I learn more about ADHD, your “super power”, that your confidence(you said that is your word for this year) in yourself will propel above and beyond the dreams you have for yourself. Your family and I will always be your biggest cheerleaders because you,
    Punkin-Cakes(just typing it)are:
    #AwesomeDeterminedHigherorderedDogged
    I will always love you,
    NaeNae

  27. Angela I love you even when you don’t listen. Your quirks are unique and amazing, you are sensitive, creative and intelligent. Yes sometimes you make stupid mistakes, everyone does, don’t beat yourself up over it. Treat yourself well, do what you love and you will thrive. I respect your kindness, honesty loyalty and integrity I wish more people had those values.
    With love from your shadow xxx

  28. Dear JR—
    I know life isn’t always easy for you and you sometimes feel you aren’t ‘normal’ but always remember that ADHD doesn’t define you. With hard work, you can overcome many obstacles that life will throw your way. I will always be your biggest supporter and advocate for you whenever possible. I love you always,
    Mom

  29. My sweet little I-, I wouldn’t change a thing about you! I love your passion for nature and animals. I admire your insatiable curiosity about science and always wanting to learn more and share what you learn with others. Your energy and joy is infectious. Your artistic creations are beautiful and amaze me with their detail. You are truly my sunshine and my joy. I love you so much! Love, Mama

  30. Dear Ella,

    Your spontaneous and fun personality is a large part of why people enjoy being around you. You often have the courage to act when necessary without doubting or questioning yourself; this is bravery. Your brain is your most amazing asset. Please stay true to yourself, and know that we love you, just as you are.

    Happy Valentine’s Day,

    Love Mom

  31. To my darling son,

    Thank you for being so patient with me as we learn this journey together. I know at times things are so hard for you and our relationship with you has suffered as we all come to grips with the best way forward. I will eternally be sorry for this, but I will never give up on you and I will never give up on trying to always find a way forward that we can both grow from. May your Valentines be as sweet as you in your times of calm, may your Valentines be as happy as you when you are confident and not feeling anxious, may your Valentines be filled with the knowledge that we can do this together and that I love you, always, forever and no matter what. Love Mum. x

  32. To my beautiful granddaughter on Valentine’s Day.

    I want you to know how much I admire you and your courageous heart. Inspite of your everyday challenges, you have always been so amazingly talented and creative. You are kind to everyone, and your smile can light up a room! Just keep on being the best version of yourself, and know that Grandma will always be right beside you, cheering you on! Love you forever❤️

  33. To our sweet little CrazyTot,
    You are truly amazing and a blessing in our lives! We admire your confidence, determination and out of this world problem solving skills. You keep surprising us with your talent for painting and puzzle solving. Your compassion for others is a beautiful thing. We know you will grow to be a beautiful, strong woman that will take the world by storm. We love you to the moon and back!

  34. Dear Matthew:

    You’re such a bright boy and we all love you very much. Watching you struggle in school since second grade has been hard for us, but now we know why you’ve had the challenges you do. The past year has taught us how to work with you and find different ways to help you learn. Now, you are in eighth grade and we are so very proud of you and all the obstacles that you e had to overcome to get yourself this far. High school is only a few months away…..and we all know that you’re gonna do great! We love you dude and can’t wait to see what great accomplishments the future has for you.

  35. What I would say to my children and grandchildren is:
    You are my sunshine everyday. I love you with all my heart and want nothing but the best for you, always!

  36. Dearest CJ,

    I love so much about you – you are energetic, passionate, kind, and smart. I love that you like solving puzzles. I love that you are working so hard to figure out how your brain works so you can show the world just how wonderful you are. Thanks for keeping me on my toes my sweet boy.

    Love, Mom

  37. Dear C

    Roses are red
    Violets are blue
    Don’t change for anyone
    Just keep being you.

    We love you with all of our hearts and will always
    have your back.

    Mum, Dad, Sis, Dotty and your therapy dog Mouse xx

  38. My dear Valentine Elijah, I want you to know the many ways that make us smile. You make us smile with joy by being you. Your a caring young man and morally strong. I love the way you don’t let negative people affect you too much and choose to discontinue associating with negative people. I love the way you stand up for yourself against bullies and I love how you hold true friendships dearly. I especially love how you treat your brother. Even though your brother has Autsim you make him feel important and help him when he needs it. I love how you stand up for your brother when people say negative things about disabilities or Autism. I especially love how proud you are of your brother and how you take pride for having him as your brother. You defend him and protect him and I love you for that. I know that sometimes ADHD can get you down sometimes but you don’t stop moving forward and I love you for that. I respect that you trust me enough to talk to me about your problems and I respect you enough to listen and be honest with you. I want you to always know that Your dad and I love you very much and are so proud of your accomplishments. We are truly happy that you were born to us. We look forward to watching your continued growth mentally and emotionally.

    Love always, Mom

  39. I am the one with ADHD in my family. Just little ol’me. But I have the most amazing supports ever. My mom and dad have learned so much since my diagnosis. They have moved through shame and regret with grace, and are now taking what they have learned and supporting my niece and nephew. Neither have been diagnosed but Auntie knows her tribe well, and they belong. Then I have the most amazing partner. We met when the diagnosis was still new. He asks questions, he never judges and he communicates clearly when my symptoms create issues. I feel so loved and supported that I am now taking a massive risk and going back to school. I am going to change the education system for adolescents with cognitive delays. I feel like I have all that I need to tackle this huge goal.

  40. To Laurin Pitts the most amazing/ adoring wife,
    I know my AD/HD can be a challenge/ hard to handle. I’m so blessed to have ever met you. You are the air I breath you make me want to be a better man. Words can not begin to explain how honored I am to be your best friend your husband. With you I am beloved.
    Your loving husband Joey Pitts
    Eternally yours forever and always~always and forever.

  41. I love the amazing thought processes, uniqueness, smarts, and creativity that comes along with ADHD. I, myself, am also afflicted with this… if you wanna call it that. I feel it has helped me immensely over the years as I found it is a way to multitask on a level that other people cannot even imagine. Yes, the forgetfulness is an issue at times, but as you get older, it is something that can be managed with devices for the most part. The hardest part of the forgetful part is in relationships, and not remembering a fact or two that were shared with you and important to the other party, to when you forgot them, it hurt their feelings. Sorry, I know I’m ranting about my personal experiences, but I haven’t come across your site or a post like this before. I just wanna say, “PREACH!!!”. I have always hated people saying it’s a disadvantage. It’s not, it’s just something different than others, and it’s categorized, so if anything that should make it easier for people who have the title to be able to find ways to shine. Another thing I’ve noticed over knowing lots of people with the ADHD title, is that they are often gifted in some way or another. It’s almost like their brains are moving more quickly and uniquely than the general population, which would be a reason they are hyper, and also why they would forget things along the way. The brain has simply deemed them not pertinent to moving forward. Something done of the unconscious. Ok, I’ll let you get back to your day!! Thanks for such an awesome post!

  42. Dear daughter, your energy and joy for life make everyday with you special. You see the adventure and beauty in the most ordinary moments and embrace opportunities to act with passion rather than sit in apathy.

  43. My dear sweet son,

    Happy Valentine’s day. You have the biggest heart of anyone I know. At 14 I have proudly watched you grow into a responsible young man. I wish that you heard more about your many positive attributes more often and from more people. I want to build you up and help you see your many qualities so that you have the confidence to know you can do anything. I want you to know that you deserve friends as kind, smart, loyal, understanding, and forgiving as you are. I see the boy who likes to tell jokes because he wants to make others laugh and be happy. I see the boy who defends his brother and classmates because he never wants to see anyone suffer. I see the boy who is generous, funny, handsome, creative, intelligent, artistic, ambitious, empathic, and loving. I love that boy so much. And more than anything, I want you to love him too.

    Mom XXOO

  44. To the love of my life – You waited 4 days to be born on my 30th birthday. My determined and commanding little boy! When you walked at 9 months old, you showed the world again that you had a strong will and could accomplish amazing things – and keep us all on our toes! Now, nearly 9 years later, you wow us with your ability to read a book in a single sitting or beat your principal at chess and dodgeball on the same day. You’re multi-talented and confident and you persevere despite your challenges. And when you’re difficult to manage, you teach me how to be a better mom and human. You tell your knock knock jokes over and over until someone laughs, work on your LEGO until every piece is perfectly in place, line your stuffed animals up just so…..Your heart is as big as your will – and your tendency to be distracted means you notice little things the rest of us don’t. The homeless person under the bridge, the $5 bill falling out of someone’s pocket, the colour of my eyes today. Because of you, we know unconditional love in a different way than we otherwise would and you’re the glue of our family – you’re the cream inside our Oreo – you make us sweeter and add a few extra calories! We love you – happy Valentine’s Day to the heart of our home.

  45. Dear Benny Boy,
    Your family’s Valentine to you….

    Roses are red
    Violets are blue
    Our world is better
    because you are uniquely you!

    We’ve watched your struggles and strife
    Would we change you if we could, not on your life!

    You’re kind and giving and have a heart of pure gold.
    It’s hard to believe our ball of energy is already 8 years old.

    There are times you’ve challenged our patience and given us a run for our money,
    But then you turn around and belt out something so clever and funny!

    You can be fierce and fiesty, unyielding from the start.
    But you are also sensitive and sentimental, you constantly tug at our heart.

    ADHD is just a label and not who you really are,
    There’s a world of possibilities, you’re destined to go far.

    So Benny Boy, we’ve had our say,
    To the sweetest little 8 yr old, Happy Valentines Day!

  46. My dearest Jazzy, if only you could love yourself as much as I love you. All of you, yes the oops I forgot because I got distracted, the I’m sorry I didn’t mean too’s, the I am trying but its just not workings, You are, and always will be the best version of yourself always creative, empathetic, fun, silly and smart I wouldn’t want you to be any other way
    Love you to infinity and beyond! Mom

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