The other day, my small son cried, “Sometimes I hate having ADHD!” and all I could do was hold him and say, “I know, baby, I know.” Because there are times when having attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD), especially as an adult woman, is simply overwhelming.
There are schedules to keep, bills to pay, an entire life — or even lives — to keep track of. You’re expected to juggle six balls simultaneously without a day logged at clown school. Your thoughts trip over one another. You fixate on small details while the big picture eludes you. You can’t make dates, appointments, birthdays, or anniversaries stick in your head. Your house is a federal disaster area of piled papers and undone laundry. You’re afraid to open your mail.
You need help. You need control. I get it.
Over the years, I’ve found a few things that have helped me take control of my life. Some of them are huge. Some of them are small. All of them have helped me live a productive, low-stress life that keeps my ADHD (mostly) in check and helps me accentuate its positive aspects (like creativity and hyperfocus) rather than its downsides (like not remembering to throw my kid a birthday party).