Spontaneity. Creativity. An unparalleled ability to entertain a room full of preschoolers. We asked non-ADHD partners what they loved most about their spouses — and what they said will warm your heart.
It’s true: Attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) has strained more than a few romantic relationships. Equally true (though less recognized) is the fact that partners with ADHD are among the most loyal, generous, engaged, and genuinely fun people you could meet. And after a lifetime of criticism for their ADHD faults, they need for their partners to recognize these good qualities — and vice versa, for that matter.
To get the ball rolling, we surveyed more than 400 people currently married to or involved with a partner with ADHD, and asked them what they loved most about their significant others. Their answers — about romance, bravery, and kind hearts — delighted but did not surprise us. Here are some of our favorite responses.
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Zest for Life
“I love his never-ending energy to engage us all. He makes us feel like no one else matters when we are with him!”
“She brings a level of being present in the moment that is really great.”
“The energy that my partner brings to our relationship is refreshing — and it energizes me too!”
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Spontaneity and Bravery
“I’m the one who carefully plans everything — so having someone willing to just randomly do something on the spur of the moment helps balance that.”
“He’s ready for adventure at any time!”
“He has little fear and will just jump into situations that scare me — but that end up being great memories for our family.”