Typical ADHD Behaviors

Exaggerated Emotions: How and Why ADHD Triggers Intense Feelings

“Challenges with processing emotions start in the brain itself. Sometimes the working memory impairments of ADHD allow a momentary emotion to become too strong, flooding the brain with one intense emotion.” Thomas Brown, Ph.D., explains why (and how) ADHD sparks such intense anger, frustration, and hurt.

A doll with different faces showing how fast adhd emotions can change.
A doll with different faces showing how fast adhd emotions can change.
1 of 13

Emotions Rule

Few doctors factor in emotional challenges when making an ADHD diagnosis. In fact, current diagnostic criteria for ADHD include no mention of “problems with emotions.” Yet recent research reveals that those with ADHD have significantly more difficulty with low frustration tolerance, impatience, hot temper, and excitability than a control group.

An illustration of a brain, and the complex pathways of ADHD emotions.
An illustration of a brain, and the complex pathways of ADHD emotions.
2 of 13

Processing Emotion: A Brain Thing

Challenges with emotions start in the brain itself. Sometimes the working memory impairments of ADHD allow a momentary emotion to become too strong, flooding the brain with one intense emotion. At other times, the person with ADHD seems insensitive or unaware of the emotions of others. Brain connectivity networks carrying information related to emotion seem to be somewhat more limited in individuals with ADHD.

Girl with ADHD overwhelmed, flooded with emotions
Girl with ADHD overwhelmed, flooded with emotions
3 of 13

Fastening on a Feeling

When an adolescent with ADHD becomes enraged when a parent refuses him use of the car, for example, his overly emotional response may be due to "flooding" — a momentary emotion that can gobble up all of the space in his head just like a computer bug can gobble up all of the space on a hard drive. This focus on one emotion crowds out other important information that might help him modulate his anger and regulate his behavior.

[Free Guide: 10 Ways to Neutralize Your Child's Anger]

For many years RSD has been the hallmark of what is called atypical depression. The reason that it was not called “typical” depression is that it is not depression at all, but the ADHD nervous system’s instantaneous response to the trigger of rejection.
4 of 13

Extreme Sensitivity to Disapproval

Individuals with ADHD often become quickly immersed in one salient emotion and have problems shifting their focus to other aspects of a situation. Hearing a slight uncertainty in a coworker’s reaction to a suggestion may lead to interpreting this as criticism and an outburst of inappropriate self-defense without having listened carefully to the coworker’s response.

ADHD, irrational fear & emotions
Young depressed male character hugging his knees. Stages of grief. Emotional problems. Suicidal thoughts. Mental health. Modern life of millennials. Grey colours.
5 of 13

Bottled Up by Fear

Significant social anxiety is a chronic difficulty experienced by more than one third of teens and adults with ADHD. They live almost constantly with exaggerated fears of being seen by others as incompetent, unappealing, or uncool.

avoidance procrastination, how to stop procrastinating, procrastivity
legs of woman standing behind arrow road marking with text NOW and LATER, call to action and procrastination concept
6 of 13

Giving In to Avoidance and Denial

Some people with ADHD don’t suffer from a lack of awareness of important emotions but from an inability to tolerate those emotions enough to deal effectively with them. They become caught up in behavior patterns to avoid painful emotions that seem too overwhelming — looming deadlines or meeting an unfamiliar group of people.

ADHD meltdown, balloon close to cactus
7 of 13

Carried Away with Emotion

For many people with ADHD, the brain’s gating mechanism for regulating emotion does not distinguish between dangerous threats and more minor problems. These individuals are often thrown into panic mode by thoughts or perceptions that do not warrant such a reaction. As a result, the ADHD brain can’t deal more rationally and realistically with events that are stressful.

[Self-Test: Could You Have Emotional Hyperarousal?]

sadness, low self-esteem
Sad and depressed woman sitting on stool. Woman is crying. Continuous line drawing. Illustration on gloomy gray background
8 of 13

Sadness and Low Self-Esteem

People with untreated ADHD can suffer from dysthymia — a mild but long-term mood disorder or sadness. It is often brought on by living with the frustrations, failures, negative feedback, and stresses of life due to untreated or inadequately treated ADHD. People who are dysthymic suffer almost every day from low energy and self-esteem.

procrastination, trouble getting started
Working Time Management Concept. Man Drinking Coffee Break. Sandglass Running Clock Cash Money Symbol Vector Illustration. Employee Efficiency Worker Productivity Optimization. Procrastination Delay
9 of 13

Emotions and Getting Started

Emotions motivate action — action to engage or action to avoid. Many people with untreated ADHD can readily mobilize interest only for activities offering very immediate gratification. They tend to have severe difficulty in activating and sustaining effort for tasks that offer rewards over the longer term.

An illustration of how emotions work in the ADHD brain.
An illustration of how emotions work in the ADHD brain.
10 of 13

Emotions and Getting Started 2

Brain imaging studies demonstrate that chemicals that activate reward-recognizing circuits in the brain tend to bind on significantly fewer receptor sites in people with ADHD than do those in a comparison group. People with ADHD are less able to anticipate pleasure or register satisfaction with tasks for which the payoff is delayed.

Post-it reminders to assist the working memory of a person with ADHD.
Post-it reminders to assist the working memory of a person with ADHD.
11 of 13

Emotions and Working Memory

Working memory brings into play, consciously and/or unconsciously, the emotional energy needed to help us organize, sustain focus, monitor and self-regulate. Many individuals with ADHD, though, have inadequate working memory, which may explain why they are often disorganized, lose their temper, or procrastinate.

A person with ADHD ties a string around her finger to help her remember.
A person with ADHD ties a string around her finger to help her remember.
12 of 13

Emotions and Working Memory 2

Sometimes the working memory impairments of ADHD allow a momentary emotion to become too strong. At other times, working memory impairments leave the person with insufficient sensitivity to the importance of a particular emotion because he or she hasn't kept other relevant information in mind.

A person with ADHD talks to a therapist to overcome emotional challenges.
A person with ADHD talks to a therapist to overcome emotional challenges.
13 of 13

Treating Emotional Challenges

Treating the emotional challenges of ADHD requires a multimodal approach: It starts with a careful and accurate evaluation for ADHD, one that explains ADHD and its effect on emotions. ADHD medication may improve the emotional networks in the brain. Talk therapy can help a person manage fear or low self-esteem. Coaching may help a person overcome problems with getting boring tasks completed.

[How’s Your Emotional Resilience? Learn to Cope with Intense ADHD Feelings]

19 Comments & Reviews

  1. 15 years ago or more I actually made a bookmark for LFT It was a metacrawler search for what caused it Nothing in the results mentioned ADHD and todayI think you have to go back seceral pages in a google search to find it. I nedded to know because my tolerance level was decreasing and my emotional trigger was becoming almost anyrhing frustrating. That is never good in business and the lack of a cause led me to sell my business and retire at age 60 12 years ago. As ayounpgster I was coached by my parents and 11 older siblings to control it but as a tee

    1. I’d sure appreciate any of your learned tools to deal with anger and frustration. I, too have difficulty with those. Particularly later in the day. I’ve learned it’s best for me to have alone time after 6:00 for the sake of those whom I love. I also have had multiple sclerosis for 34 years (I’m 62) which can make emotional outbursts more frequent.

  2. Can you stop putting things like this in a 15 page slideshow? This is a site for people with ADD, we both know I’m never going to get past slide 3. I really want to read the whole thing all at once. Please give me that option.

    1. I hate them too. Depending on your OS, browser, etc you may be able to use the print function to save the article as a pdf. This eliminates the need to go slide by slide. Only drawback is you lose the pictures. Honestly, I don’t consider that much of a problem because they don’t usually add anything to the article.

    2. Amen !! I just formally joined this website today, even though I swear I’ve been on it before… 🤔 but dang it! All I’m able to do is bookmark or “save” the shizzzz out of every interesting article and I know DEEP down that I’m probably never going to To go back and find time to allocate adhd articles that remind me I’m not normal but I should read but dang it the format is so confusing and overly stimulating with a crapload of pharma ads. I can’t tell if joining this site is a blessing or a curse ! It’s like going into Dave and busters with adhd and processing disorder… seems like a great idea at first. Until it’s not, then you’re left feeling moody AF and have to bail and can’t even tell the people around you why you’re so grumpy “sorry I’m an _____, I was just wasting 4 hours of my day on an adhd self help site that seemed promising but ultimately left me feeling like a pathetic loser who’s lost half her day and can’t regain any of it, has nothing to show for but 5,000 bookmarks and oh Ps I got so hyper focused that I forgot to eat lunch so thanks for making this homemade meal for me- thoughtful, but I gotta go grab a bunch of granola bars, random kid snacks and eat like a college dorm kid whilst hibernating from you and the family because I’m too reactive to be kind to you or appreciate your gestures when I’m not in touch with my own adhd. Oh wait. That wasn’t what this post was about. Fml. Sorry. But yes I agree with it all.

    3. Personally. I think if you can only read a couple. Then this information seems not to intrigue you at this moment… when we’re interested. We’re intrested. Simple as that, it covers many different aspects. And don’t forget if you can relate to it, use it to explain to the ones that are close but don’t have adhd/add. It’s very useful in that manner I personally think….. it explains a lot about what you can relate to? Then use it. To explain what it’s like. Rather tham moan, it’s very well written, it’s information about adhd. Not written to tell people with adhd what adhd is like….. 👌. Hyperfocus comes in handy when reading these sort of things….. just saying 😏

  3. As a parent of a ADHD child I have seen the outburst. He gets annoyed and angry so quickly. He fights with his 16yr old sister and only realise afterwards what he has done, then he will get emotional and feel guilty.. Its been very hard these past weeks for me..

  4. I imagine this article format /might/ be helpful for some who struggle with a wall of text, but I’m finding it near-impossible to focus on. I can’t highlight the words, which is usually how I read paragraphs without getting lost (so my eyes are jumping all over each slide). The slideshow isn’t keyboard responsive, which is painful as moving backward and forward means moving the mouse/trackpad. And, to be honest, I had to double check which website I was on for a second there as the slideshow format is common to clickbait sites trying to sell a product. I really like this website and have learned so much about myself from it, it’d be nice to have the choice between the slideshow mode (assuming it helps others) and text mode.

  5. For as long as I can remember, getting angry was an incredibly overwhelming experience that felt horrible. My mind would circle the thing I was mad about so much it would end up making me physically sick. I’ve avoided anger as much as possible because feeling it is so aweful. One of the strangest and most wonderful things that happened to me once I started medication for my ADHD was anger becoming less overwhelming. I can still get angry, it’s just more like what it seems like most people feel when they are angry rather than this hulk demon it used to be haha! It was a nice surprise.


    1. I too have many book marked pages. But am thankful I have them to be able o go to when I can. I have been treated for depression, mood disorders, hormonal problems for over 35 years. Since my son, who is now 15, has had many issues and been thru neurofeedback as well, to find his problems. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and put on meds about 10 yrs ago. What a God sent blessing. I am learning so much more. This RAGE we both instantly get consumed by, is adhd, NOT hormones… although all natural bioidentical progesterone imbalance, can help, but i cant afford $100 a month for both of us…. BUT… i would love to know what medications help with the RAGE outbursts???? They are scary and I hate the constant rage within me. I never used to have it. SO after reading about the RSD and rage i am happy to know alot of it is learned and can be undone. But how do I control it?Stop it? change it? Thank you

  6. I agree, laughing At the fact that I just spent eight hours reading copying pasting trying to organize all of these different article. I said to a friend either this website was definitely created by someone with ADHD we’re definitely not created by someone with ADHD

  7. On a more positive note: I am a 5oyear-old female with ADHD but never knew or understood so many of the symptoms and mechanisms behind what I thought were bad personality traits because I was told so often by my mother that they were, but I feel such vindication and validation today after discovering this website just one Day ago. Thank you so much from the bottom of my soul or the time taken in the research that was done to help me understand myself

Leave a Reply