“The Rules of Conversation Mystify My ADHD Brain. But I’ll Keep Talking.”
“I’ve worried about overstepping the rules of conversation and etiquette for much of my life. I have spent two decades filtering what I said to be as concise and meaningful as possible. My diligence in speaking has made me an effective speaker when needed, but at what cost? That’s what I’ve been asking myself lately.”
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What does it matter? WHAT DOES IT MATTER? Listen up. In a work environment if you let your ADD or ADHD problem get out of control your bosses will be appalled and add your name to their secret list of layoff candidates. In case you haven’t heard, some 30 MILLION Americans have lost their jobs due to the pandemic. Duhhhh!
In social situations I have often been quickly eliminated from all possible chances of building friendships. I have trained myself pretty well from interrupting others but I find it hard to resist interjecting a different topic when it’s my turn to talk because I’m afraid I’ll forget what I want to say.
So take it from a guy who has been a student in the school of hard knocks for 60+ years. Disguise it, hide it but NEVER admit it. Few people in either the workplace or in social situations will cut you any slack. They’ll just write you off as eccentric, a social moron and all ****ed up.
I relate to this so much. I have a very quirky, creative way of approaching each person I encounter, always trying to get the most out of our interaction. It’s never in a manipulative way, or as in a way to gain something, but it should be meaningful. But sometimes I have to let that go. Sometimes the interaction isn’t going to amount to making a new best friend or networking opportunity. Ultimately, we need to communicate for our basic needs. And if it boils down to not wanting to feel alone, or needing to relate to another, don’t compromise yourself to fit the idea built up in your mind of what you think others will judge you on. Even if they do judge you, which is only human nature, what does it really matter? As long as you are being true to your intentions, it shouldn’t feel like failure. When we need to be accepted, it means we haven’t forgiven ourselves for being a certain way. So forgive and let it be. ✌🏼