“What Happens When My Excitement Blinds Me to Your Discomfort.”

“If you feel uncomfortable, please don’t tell me, ‘I’d rather we didn’t’ or ‘Maybe we could try it later.’ That makes it sound like you have jitters and just need more assurance. This very small misunderstanding can ruin relationships. It can destroy trust. It can go very bad — and it has on serious and far-reaching occasions in my life.”