Flip the Switch on the Power Struggle

Argumentative kids aren't looking to take away a parent's or teacher's power. They just want some of their own. How to best manage an oppositional child with ADHD.

Momof2since12

April 17, 2019 at 1:15 am

I have power struggles with my 12 year old daughter with ADHD. She will try to get me mad by telling things like I don’t like my teacher she looks at me with a smirk on her face and then she calls me to do my book report. I tell her she does this because she cares about you and wants to help you. And my daughter would continue to say I don’t care, I still don’t like her. It drives me nuts because I want her to understand how much she can actually learn from this instead of just criticizing her teacher for doing what a good teacher would do.
Janice Molinari

August 23, 2017 at 4:57 pm

This is such good advice!! We are raising an 11 year old grandsons– great kid but oh so difficult sometimes over the silliest things. Everything is a power struggle- it wears you out!! In addition to being overly impulsive he is also super bright. You have to be on your toes all the time with him
1. jbb.strengthanddignity
  
  November 9, 2017 at 4:23 pm
  
  I am so hearing you on this one. My 13-year-old can argue the ears of a row of corn. With him I have discovered that if I ask him nicely to do something for me, he generally will. Where as if I phrase things with any words that sound even the least bit like a demand he will stub up. That is when things usually go down hill.