“You Can’t Buy Forgiveness for Your ADHD. But You Can Learn to Apologize Without Accepting Shame.”
"Within 30 seconds of discovering my mistake, I had lapsed into fight-or-flight mode. My body moved automatically, sending me running to the shop for a replacement. Quick. Quick. Make it better. Avoid the shame. Avoid the reprimand. Avoid seeing that disappointed look in the eyes of someone you love yet again.”
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Wait a sec…you just never made it up to your step-son after eating his chocolate and you admit you never will, so that’s that?
I have to say, I don’t think it’s fair to the rest of us ADHD sufferers/survivors to blame that behavior on the disorder.
But I’m glad your self-compassion is taking care of it, at least on your end.
Interesting spiral description.
My Husband with ADHD though invented his own. He messes up. The pretends nothing happened/ does not notice anything happened. If anyone notices his mess up and bring it to his attention he explodes and fires back with more blame than you can imagine ( different ways to bring up are being tried, result is the same:() . This trained me out of addressing anything with him. Saves him a hustle. Great arrangement for ignoring ADHD impact on marriage and me specifically. Great way to make me :(:(:(
aDHD should not be an excuse to make everyone around bend over backwards 🙁
Thank you for this. I was 43 when I finally realized I have ADD and am getting treatment. Im 45 now and I think I am starting to grasp how ADD has affected my life. I have undergone this spiral my entire life. I have spent a lifetime thinking there is something wrong with me. It is so good to know there are others exactly like me. Everything written here has happened to me. Good luck and bless you.