I Was Speaking Chinese — and Expecting My Child to Understand
“Imagine someone politely asks you to speak Chinese. They can speak Chinese very easily, so they assume you can, too. In fact, everyone around you seems to know how to speak it. So, it’s kind of embarrassing that you can’t. You feel awful about yourself.”
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Like so many other articles I read on Additude, I easily relate to as all that is said about the challenges and frustrations of parenting an ADHD child. However, I sm often left frustrated with little content on WHAT to do or HOW to actually handle it.
“I stopped asking my children to speak Chinese. It’s amazing how much better we collaborate when we speak the same language.”
What does that look/sound like???
Love this article. Lightbulbs went off the first time I read Ross Greene saying that inappropriate behavior in these kids is not just that they are “bad kids”, but the sign of an unmet need. But the problem I have with my 11-yr old 2E kid is that when I stop and try to reframe things as the article suggests, she thinks I am “treating her like a baby.” Lately, if I start to apologize and explain things in a different way, I simply hear, “I GET IT.” 🙁