For Men With ADHD — and Those Who Love Them
Men with ADHD may bring unique challenges to a relationship — career shame, emotional dysregulation, and anger are a few common sticking points. Learn how both partners in a relationship can recognize these symptoms of ADD, and work through them together.
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Karen, thanks for your words, I feel as you do, though I don’t have ADHD. Your life is like mine, sadly.
I’m still overwhelmed and terrified as i as near retirement that I have a heightened likelihood of developing alzheimer’s. I stumble along and frequently see suicide as my remedy. Dave
Please reach out to your doctor or a counselor to discuss these feelings.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism
Normally I find the articles to be very helpful. This one was not.
While a agree that men with ADHD (both my husband and I have ADHD although his symptoms appear stronger than mine) struggle with the things mentioned in the article (career issues, anger, retreating, expressing emotions, and difficulty accepting diagnosis) the suggestions were not helpful. What was being suggested was that the partner needed to be the one to deal with all of those challenges. There seemed no responsibility placed back on the man with ADHD or recognition for the needs of the partner.
I already carry do what is suggested in this article and it does not lead to a “Happy Relationship” at all. I am very unhappy in my situation. I’ve done these suggestions for the past 28 years. I am the one who picks up the slack for my husband’s ADHD challenges. I feel invalidated, unsupported, and alone. I also have ADHD and yet I get no support for that from my husband. My only help is medication which has made it easier to cope with the difficult situation that I live in, but has not actually changed anything.
Please do not repeat these sorts of articles that only make it harder for those already struggling to cope and that tell them to do such self-devaluing and ineffective things. No one needs to have a more difficult time than they already do!
After reading the article “For Men with ADHD and Those Who Love Them”, I found I use many of the suggestions, however when I use I to say something about how I feel his response has been: “this is not about you this is about me”, how should I respond?