How to Make Friends: A Guide for Adults with ADHD
“I have no friends.”
It’s a common lament among adults with ADHD, who face outsized difficulties making and keeping up close relationships. We struggle to create the structures and observe the protocols that friendships depend on — from being on time and remembering names to measuring our words carefully and not getting too close too quickly.
Unfiltered words, missed social cues, forgetfulness, quickness to anger, and other problems can offend others and make them think that you don’t care. What’s more, managing the stress of life with ADHD – helping a child study for a test, organizing a week’s worth of meals, making sure medication is taken – often take precedence over a social life.
But friends are important. Really important. In this ebook, you will learn the following:
- How to meet new friends by joining groups and activities that spark joy
- How to connect with old friends with whom you’ve lost touch
- How to navigate a cocktail party with small talk, eye contact, and names remembered
- How to be a better listener — and rememberer
- How to make amends with a friend you’ve lost
PLEASE NOTE: This eBook is a downloadable PDF; it does not ship.
Full Product Description
Why Do Adults with ADHD Struggle with Friendships?
- Friendships require verbal interplay, good listening, and an awareness of nonverbal cues. Most adults with ADHD find it hard to perform these skills consistently.
- Juggling complex lives, they feel they don’t have enough energy left over to keep close friendships; their lives require downtime to regroup.
- Social expectations include social conventions like birthday cards, thank-you notes, and the like. Often, check-ins are moved from today’s to-do list to tomorrow’s list, until they become delayed for days, weeks, or months.
- Many adults with ADHD carry painful memories of friendships gone wrong, and fears of reproach and rejection increase their avoidance.
- After a gap in communication, some adults with ADHD become ashamed of their avoidance, and fearful of its consequences, so they let the friendship slip away rather than try to explain their silence.
Here, find advice and strategies from experts who understand the social challenges specifically facing adults with ADHD. Inside, you will find tactics for making new friends, connecting with old friends, becoming a better listener, and keeping relationships strong over years.
6-PART FRIENDSHIP GUIDE
HOW TO MEET NEW FRIENDS
- How to meet people who share your interests and will support you.
HOW TO CONNECT WITH OLD FRIENDS
- How to get back in touch with friends you miss.
HOW TO NAVIGATE A COCKTAIL PARTY
- How to remember names, find topics of conversation, and keep your focus.
HOW TO BE A BETTER LISTENER
- How to slow down, stop talking, and remember more of what’s said.
HOW TO STAY IN TOUCH
- How to carve out time for friends on a regular basis.
HOW TO MAKE AMENDS
- How to forgive and reconnect or move on without regret.