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“Did I Overshare by Telling My New Co-Workers That I Habitually Overshare?”

“I have a handle on things generally, but I still worry that I might say something awkward if I get anxious or let my guard down too much. But unlike previous jobs, I broached this topic with my new co-workers during the job interview.”

Les Steed, writer
By Les Steed Updated on August 21, 2024
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I’ve worked all my life to learn where the line is for others. Comedians understand the importance of finding (and sometimes crossing) that line. In the context of a comedy club, it’s socially acceptable to flaunt the audience’s line. At work? Not so much.

Oversharing at Work

I recently started a new job, and I’m working with a fantastic bunch. They’re supportive, understanding, and kind. It’s been two weeks, and everyone already knows the name of my motorbike (Dragon). I can’t help myself — I overshare. I’m so acutely aware of this foible that I keep bringing it up and negging myself before anyone else can.

But I often can’t find the line until I’ve already crossed it. As a result, I’ve suffered consequences and paid a harsh price in the past.

I have a handle on things generally, but I still worry that I might say something awkward if I get anxious or let my guard down too much. But unlike previous jobs, I broached this topic with my new co-workers during the job interview.

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Honest, Open Communication

I’m lucky — my manager is blunt and makes occasional faux pas similar to my own. My first impression of her from my pre-interview research was that she would be scary, humorless, and stern, but I was totally wrong. My boss is awesome, fun, and appreciates my sense of humor. She knows she made the right choice in hiring me, and I really respect her.

She says what she thinks and speaks her mind. It takes a willingness from me and courage from her to know that she can tell me, “I know you like to be funny and talk, but for the love of god, keep a lid on it for this meeting and just take notes,” and I’m okay with that.

Suppose you go out to dinner with someone in a wheelchair and the restaurant is on the second floor of a building with no elevator. You know it may take some effort to get up the stairs, but you are eating one way or another. There’s an issue, it’s not your friend’s fault, but it is our problem. Having someone who understands your struggles, helps you up the stairs, and refuses to bag on dinner is invaluable.

Be true to yourself, teach others about ADHD (focus on the positives, and let them know the odd bits, too), and make sure they see a person trying their best. Don’t put yourself down before people can form their own opinion either. Just be human, and if the people around you are human too, you’re in the right place.

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