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Nine Dilemmas of Everyday Genius

Passionate, happy, patient people face these trade-offs every day. How will you choose?

The underlying principles upon which a fulfilling evolutionary life are founded — a life that is rationally passionate, serenely active, creatively mature, energetically patient, and a genuine gift to all — hinge on reconciling the Nine Dilemmas of Everyday Genius:

Either define, accept, and develop your gifts, or deny your gifts by fulfilling the wishes of others.

Either honor your need for independence and find some true peers, or tolerate isolation, misunderstanding, or loneliness.

Either take reasonable risks and avoid those that endanger your mission, or play it safe on the sidelines, risking a life full of regrets.

Either manage the boundaries in interpersonal relationships to be wisely discriminating, or pass up intimacy altogether.

Either listen to inner guidance and activate your soul’s intention, or refuse to hear and bury your creative spirit in a one-dimensional reality.

Either use your exceptional gifts to benefit humankind, or indulge yourself in spirit-devouring self-gratification.

Either value the different traits and abilities of others, or remain immaturely intolerant of others, chronically impatient and perennially disappointed.

Either turn frustration and rejection into creative energy, or cling to resentment and surrender your dreams.

Either initiate a balanced plan of Self-maintenance strategies, or wait for external sources to dictate and control your life.

(From The Gifted Adult, by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, Psy.D.)

2 Comments & Reviews

  1. I don’t often comment on articles. I take the advice and move on. This excerpt from the book mentioned doesn’t really do much for anyone. Yeah, either/or… but what if we’re not so cut and dry or black and white? What if we’re dynamic beings with sliding scales on each of those spectrums? And what if we see in ourselves the detriment, but have no idea how to get out of it? Instead of simply posting a section of a book, how about delving into suggestions and solutions? What about taking this advice and actually putting it into perspective for those of us with ADHD? Many of us have trouble finding true peers and learning how to take charge of a brain that leads us down so many avenues every moment of every day. “Advice” like this isn’t helpful. All it does is remind us that we’re deficit in some way just like the rest of the world. We’re not “living up to our potential” or “working harder” or “enough”. I’m simply pointing out things that came to mind as I read through these prompts. I find this sadly disappointing and demotivating.

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