School Behavior

Making Amends in the Classroom

Discussing consequences that follow when rules are broken teach children responsibility and self-awareness.

Don't take away recess from a hyper child
Don't take away recess from a hyper child

In my class, the consequence for breaking a rule involves a process we call “responsibility, remorse, repair.”

A child takes responsibility by admitting she made a mistake, and shows remorse by writing about what she did and what choices she might make in the future. Then we discuss how she can “repair” the situation. If her behavior disrupted a lesson, for instance, she might give time back to the class by forgoing recess to set up for the next lesson.

Young students can be allowed to express themselves verbally, but by third grade they should be able to do so in writing.

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