Time & Productivity

iObsessed: When Impulsivity Takes Over

Distracted by, well, everything? One woman weighs in on why her ADHD causes her to obsess over random ideas, and how she puts it all into perspective.

ADHD Obsessions: Controlling Sudden Impulses with ADD
ADHD Obsessions: Controlling Sudden Impulses with ADD

I had a great day running an outdoor event for my job. It felt good. Then, right in the middle of a conversation with a coworker, I decided that I had to make hand-dipped wax candles. Now. As the person talked, my ADHD obsession kicked in and I searched for “candlemaking” and “candlemaking supplies” on my iPhone.

Dear iPhone: You’re such an ADHD enabler. How am I supposed to exercise restraint when I know that I can get a master’s degree in candlemaking online in an hour? In 10 minutes, I was able to figure out that I preferred to work with soy wax, how to make a cool holder thingy to loop the wicks through while dipping them, and which colors and scents to use.

Then I realized that I shouldn’t do it because I’m barely managing my current to-do list. I don’t need more projects. Still, the compulsion to do it became fierce. The obsession bitch was taking over. It took me three hours to smother the impulse to buy candlemaking supplies and make candles all evening — some time between eating some dinner and going to see Sonny (my musician husband) play a show with a new band.

One of the nice things about having a husband with ADHD is that, when I explained to him that my thought processes had been taken over by a candlemaking alien, he laughed. He knows what that’s like. He and I agreed that I had to turn things around, and use candlemaking as a reward, after I get through the three big things I need to finish at the moment.

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2 Comments & Reviews

  1. Oh my goodness! I love when I read something from someone else who has ADD and suddenly I don’t feel so alone in the world of neurotypicals again. You explained one of the exact struggles that I fight with (not so well I might add) daily, yet, never knew to or knew how to put into words (which is strange, because it seems so simple to just explain what we go through, but, you know not always so simple when you have ADD and feel like people don’t understand). Now I can help educate and enlighten others (like my husband, coworkers…boss…maybe, lol) in the hopes of helping them understand me, or if they have ADD too, better articulate their struggles also. I may not be making any sense, but the main thing I guess I wanted to say to you is THANK YOU for just simply writing this! 🤦🏻‍♀️😊❤️

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