I Don’t Need Your Help
“My wife says she can handle her ADHD without help. Is this possible?”
It’s important for your wife to measure her progress in managing symptoms against the goals she is trying to meet. Both of you should set goals that will improve your relationship. If she can reach them on her own, by creating structure, reminder systems, and using medication, that’s great. If she finds she is falling short, she should get professional help — a coach or a therapist — to help her make progress. You should be the last resort in helping her achieve her goals. Her response to you suggests that she doesn’t want your assistance.