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Q: My Tween Fights Waking Up Every Single Morning

The alarm doesn’t work. So you go into your child’s room to wake him up for school. Again. And again. And again. Yelling and frustration ensue and your day begins with negativity. To solve this problem, try setting up an incentive program with strict parameters. Here, Ryan Wexelblatt explains how to set up and enforce a healthier morning routine.

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Q: “How can we wake our child up in the morning without a fight? He will tell us to get out of his room, go away, leave me alone, don’t come back in here and so on. He is 12 years old and this has been going on for five or more years. We make 6 to 8 trips up the stairs each morning trying to get him out of bed. Nothing works.”

A: “This behavior serves at least two purposes for your son: It’s his way of avoiding a non-preferred task, which is waking up for school, and it’s a way for him to feel some sense of control over you. If you have to go into his room 6 times, he feels he is in control of the situation and you are not. Here is what I would suggest…”


Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW is the facilitator of the ADHD Dude Facebook Group and YouTube channel. Ryan specializes in working with males (ages 5-22) who present with ADHD, anxiety with ADHD, and learning differences; he is the one professional in the United States who specializes in teaching social cognitive skills to boys from a male perspective.

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