My Forum Comments
March 27, 2018 at 5:55 pm in reply to: If you could go back in time and do it all over again, would you? #80148ZaraParticipant
As a non-ADD partner to an ADD man for over a year now I can say this: I accepted and loved my boyfriend as he was. What I did not accept and nobody should are the consequences of his behavior: broken promises, inability to follow-up on anything, defensive rants, emotional manipulation, rejection dysphoria. It’s no one’s fault to be born with ADD/ADHD. It is, however, one’s responsibility if born with the condition that as an adult he or she recognizes it and takes proper actions to manage the symptoms. No one should feel responsible, out of love or obligation, to bear the brunt of someone else’s mental condition. Non-ADD people: please wake up and be assertive. You deserve true love NOT abuse!
After one year of relationship I finally woke up and I am taking action to RUN and save myself. I deserve better! Whoever wonders whether to stay or go: Go! You deserve better too!ZaraParticipant
There is only one possible answer: RUN!
You continue to go back because you are becoming co-dependent on the high-low serotonin pattern, which is the most toxic relationship pattern of all. Things are NEVER going to change in better, they will only get WORSE! By the time you wake up you’ll have children with him and you’ll never be free again.
Unfortunately, I know from my own experience that no matter the amount of medication or professed love the broken promises, emotional manipulation and defensive rants will repeat on a regular basis. You can change yourself and accept a miserable life but why would you?
You deserve a better life! Love yourself and run!