whatnots2015

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  • in reply to: Should I become a mother #193967
    whatnots2015
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    Excellent tip about headphones. I have them for my husband as he makes noises, I guess his self-stimulating behaviour, and I’m sensitive to noise and I don’t like it! 🙂 I’m currently waiting for a diagnosis but regardless of the outcome hoping to find lots of strategies to help me cope with relationships, work etc and feel a bit more confident in my abilities and potential so that the things I feel are struggles and frustrations now are just part of life and no big deal 🙂

    in reply to: Should I become a mother #193952
    whatnots2015
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    Hello! I joined this site just a few minutes ago! I’m currently awaiting diagnosis of autism / ADHD / both / neither and got married recently. My autistic husband would like children and I’m also wondering how I’d cope as a parent. I’m not sure about my husband’s practical skills but I know that he would make a loving parent. I seem to meet many criteria for both autism and ADHD and my nephew has a diagnosis of autism so we could well have a neurodiverse biological child if we manage to procreate. I’m also thinking that adopting or fostering a neurodiverse child would be fab as we’d have empathy as well as being super fun parents! For a long time I’ve felt distressed about and ashamed of my “shortcomings” but now I’m working on self-acceptance and getting to know my neurodiverse super powers. I also struggle to keep jobs, maintain relationships, keep home clean and tidy etc.

    in reply to: Diagnosis Says I Don’t Have ADHD… Now what? #193951
    whatnots2015
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    I joined this forum about 10 minutes ago! I’m sorry to hear about your diagnostic experience. I am also waiting to hear further about diagnosis of autism / ADHD / both / neither and I’m a bit apprehensive about getting a “no” verdict. From the questionnaires I’ve filled in so far I could well meet the criteria for both, which could make it more difficult to diagnose either. Maybe this has happened in other people’s cases too.

    But I’m working on self-acceptance and trying to use strategies for people with ADHD and autistic people 🙂 My autistic husband had to have a second opinion to get his diagnosis. He was an adult but I wonder if his mum paid for the second opinion. I might have discussed this previously with my husband but I can’t remember!

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