Thanks for the advice. I told my wife before I posted that we should have his baseball team as a Plan B. They get along with him and he is able to hyperfocus for baseball so they really don’t even know he has ADHD.
Honestly I never really dabbled in forums until just recently, so I am not aware of any in my area. I will have to look further into this. I guess the ADHD was never really on my mind until the bday thing because, well my son is my son and he has a lot of quirks I got used to and didn’t pay any mind to it. But now, I can see how it affects his relationships with the lack of interest for his bday.