My Forum Comments
Be wise to the “Big Pharma” pushing drugs for the Dr. to prescribe. If you like your medication and it is working for you and there is no research that would should good cause to change.. I would find another Dr.
*Most likely this Dr. is getting paid to push the new drug.
It is hard to get these kids into addiction centers, because most places don’t still understand it. My son is 22. We went through all of this same stuff. Not doing the work in school. He graduated a year early because I pulled him out of school and took him to get his GED. WHICH, he passed with perfect scores. How absurd is that!!?? he is now almost 23 and nothing has changed. He is still playing video games and not working. He can’t hold down a job for more than a few weeks, no matter what shift he takes. I kicked him out several times. He just lands on his grandmothers couch who lets him stay, because quite frankly he would probably just find somewhere else to crash or sleep under a bridge. It seems that this is a much bigger problem than I thought after reading all of these stories. All of these kids seem to be around the same age too… I wish there was an answer, because its such a waste. He is a very kind, nice, and sweet human. Just not productive at all. He also tells me with out hesitation that he is not motivated to go to work or do anything, and that he is not depressed. He just doesn’t want to.
I should also add – My son is EXTREMELY smart. He did not even finish 9th grade, but got a perfect score on his GED test from the state. So he has a high school equivalency diploma for which he did ZERO studying for. He spent all of his high school years showing up to class, but never turning in a lick on work. Which does not help the frustration that his intelligence is so ridiculous- but he can’t hold a job down for more than 2 weeks.
I also have a 22 yr. old son who sounds like he may be living in your home!! I kicked him out several times, and he is now living with his grandmother doing exactly the same thing. He has not done much in the way of making changes. He also seems to be very immature for his age. I wonder if you have the same issue with your son? He’s more like a 16-17 year old. He won’t take ADD medication and is also quite socially anxious. He does not like the meds and he has never kept a job for more than a few weeks. He does not have friends from high school and none that are actually not “online friends” It’s very bizarre to me. I have not found a solution. He doesn’t even seem to care that other people are paying for his (non) life-style.
It always seems to me that if he were doing drugs, at least he would have a reason for behaving this way. His grandmother does not seem to mind that he does not want to work and she is ok with him just living there and playing games all the time. I too was a single parent. His father and my parents both took him in for a few months, only to find that what I was telling them was not an exaggeration.
I wish I had an answer for you. I really do. But I guess I am just adding my story so you know you are not the only mother with a child who is like this. I seriously thought I was the only mother that had a grown child. I feel like I did something wrong. I fear that my youngest child will follow in his footsteps. Ugghh.. I am always waiting for the day that he tell me.. ” Mom, I have to go to work, but I’ll talk to you later” or ” Mom, I got an apartment, and it’s really nice, you should come see it.”