My Forum Comments
I have the same. It’s a strange way to feel…Sometimes Introvert… Sometimes Extrovert. What I would do for a live concert right now surrounded by people, but right now I also feel the most stable and calm than I’ve ever had in my life now that I’ve been working from home and social distancing.
I do believe that being in social situations requires me to ‘hype up’ and go at it with everything I got. Smiling, laughing, and trying to have witty things to say. I think it’s a rush because it’s a challenge I’ve learned to ‘ace’ after a childhood of awkwardness… and then afterward I’m exhausted. Then I don’t want to see anyone for weeks till I’m rested. Definitely makes it hard to maintain a middle road. In my 20’s I really pushed myself hard to make up for my social inadequacies. People expected me to be engaged at all times and I really didn’t take care of myself by listening to my energy levels by trying to keep it up. I knew that once I was out I would ‘have fun’ and my energy would return. Now I know it was definitely the dopamine.
How about adderall breaks on the weekend. When I first began I dropped a lot of weight due to stress and adderall suppressing my appetite. I would forget to eat while working without it but the adderally really suppressed my apetite on top of forgetting to eat. A few years later I don’t have that problem.. Gained it back.. Then added menopause to the mix…oh boy. But anyway, when I was losing I would take breaks on the weekend so that I could eat more calories than I did during the week.
Sorry, you all are having a hard time. Something I learned quite late in life is to use todo lists. It helps at work and at home. I read that a lot of us with ADHD struggle in our teenage years, not because of hormones but because we are then forced to be more self-sufficient. Whereas in grade school we had our parents help. I never learned about todo lists until I was 36 years old.
Before that, I used todo lists for groceries. I never knew they could be helpful in terms of organizing my life, remembering and getting things done. I’m not always perfect with my lists. And I have a long way to go in terms of accepting myself with ADHD. It’s good that he is doing therapy and taking his meds. Time since my diagnosis 4 years ago has dulled some of the pain of feeling like I ‘could’ve been better’ or ‘do I really have ADHD’.
The lists help a lot. But I do think there is something that I’m lacking when it comes to studying.
Yes, self-care is tough especially when I know I’ll feel better. The other part of self-care I’m working on is not to self-blame… A continuous work in progress.
I was recently diagnosed about 5 years ago. I’ve been diagnosed with depression since my teens. Off and on Prozac. After entering post-surgical menopause my oncologist thought Effexor would be better to help control the hot flashes…
Surprisingly I really liked Effexor and it helped stabilize the mood swings a lot. One downside is the withdrawal symptoms. Though that gives me an added incentive to not miss a dose. Something I was prone to do on Prozac.
It’s been hard to explain how complicated ADHD is alone, then adding in hormones or lack thereof and it’s harder for me to explain. My family and friend also know about it all…Though trying to get my family to realize they may need to be checked for it too has been tough. Though my mom has been the only one to get tested and she’s been diagnosed with ADHD. She had a really tough time in school and does feel relieved to know there’s a reason.
OMG, I’ve been feeling like I’ve been going crazy. I’ve been having such a hard time lately. I’ve always been hard on myself and have always had a where there’s a will, there’s a way attitude, but after being thrust into post-surgical menopause after chemotherapy I can’t will anything together. I’m also on effexor for depression and menopause side effects since I can’t have HRT due to previous breast cancer. I finally today joined ADDitude forums for some support. Add me to the you are not alone list. It’s a struggle to not be able to explain ADHD to those surrounding me but then to add the menopause too at 37. It’s been very isolating as my friends are all in their early to mid-thirties and have no idea.