My Forum Comments
Don’t listen to this person. He/she doesn’t know what’s really going on and, like you said, is projecting. Remember that there’s always going to be someone in these forums that opposes your statements – ignore and keep on moving.
I have no advice (lots of great advice below though) but just know there are so many of us out there going through exactly what you are. One poster below mentioned she had an alcoholic father. I had a similar situation and when you grow up like that, you often marry a person you want to fix. It sucks. But for now, I’m just doing the best I can. Once my children are older, we’ll see… Also, my husband doesn’t do well with 1:1 counseling. He’s better when we do couples counseling (when he wants to go which is almost never) because he can’t lie or hide the truth. It’s helpful when we actually go.stacadhdParticipant
Great advice! Most of these posts are so relatable it’s crazy. When my husband gets heated, I remind myself that it’s just noise and an hour later, he acts like nothing happened. I guess that’s working for now but when do you say enough is enough?? I have women friends and family that I can count on, but shouldn’t I be able to rely on my husband? Is this really a marriage if I need to go outside the relationship for comfort and love? For example, I had cancer two years ago and my husband could not sympathize with me at all – not even during chemo! He made it all about himself. I swore to myself during that time that I would leave him when I was better. But I didn’t. We have 3 kids, 1 with special needs. So I just can’t up and leave. For now, I’m going to practice self-care and focus on my kids…and reevaluate in a few more years. Sucks but it is what it is.