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December 2, 2018 at 1:37 pm in reply to: I feel so left out – it’s like I’m invisible. Any advice please? #104777
Wow your story sounds like how I have always also always felt in social situations. I just told my hubby yesterday, who does not have ADHD that I was hoping not to run into a neighbor when I went out for a walk because I hate and don’t know how to do small talk.
I agree with many others that posted it is not worth it to not be who you really are. I have always had only a couple close friends because I hate trying to play the mind games and be clickish if that makes any sense to you. In other words I would rather be with and around people who accept me as I am.
Welcome and I think it is a good thing for you to be able to share your story and connect with those of us that also have ADD/ADHD as adults.
I also did not get dg. until later in life even though I had known for many years that I had it. I have two sons that do also. When they were dg. and I started reading and asking the Drs questions to help them I realized that I had always had ADD but when I was in school (many yrs. ago) kids with ADHD…. we’re thought of as either lazy, not smart, or troublemakers.. So I like you also had trouble in classes with the subjects I liked I did well and others I barely passed. I decided finally to seek a formal dg. just this year and am now even though my kids are grown to take meds and I am so glad I did. I wish I would have done it many years earlier.
I like you wish that the meds helped me in more areas of my life, but I also have found that I have found other ways over the years to compensate. In some ways that is helpful and others maybe not, but I too am looking for help through this site and therapy to find more answers.
Best of luck to you and keep seeking.
Thanks for the suggestions, I hope to find the time for some of these asap. I will try using the ‘right brain’ term and see the reactions 😁. The therapist I was talking about, he is not the one I see for meds…is retiring next month but he did say I could see someone else there. I may, but I may be ok with just seeing the one who also does the med check. She is better some days than others. The one I like told me recently he has ADHD also, no wonder he gets it 😅. Thanks again 😊
I am at a loss for words right now as I want to express my heartfelt thanks for everyone’s kind words of support and encouragement. I have read them all (at least twice ;)). I now feel not only more hopeful and encouraged but too have some tools to use from your suggestions and ideas. Even if just to be calm and be okay with being one of us non-neurotypicals. I have started also going to another therapist for insomnia and he is positive and tells me a lot of good things. He even makes me feel like I am a good person even though I don’t always feel like it. I do have an amazing job even though I can barely keep up physically ect. at times. I work at a medical daycare with babies and kids. I love being around kids as they don’t see your flaws, faults ect. They don’t care if you are alble to be as good as others, they just want to be loved and taken care if. I wish I could do this job forever, but because of physical issues I am going to have to retire early. I need to work longer, but I will only be able to if I can find a less physical and maybe a part time situation. Either way I will be okay. Thank you all again for reading and responding I really do appreciate all of you! 💙 Best of luck to all of us as we travel this road together!