I totally feel your frustration.
My 16 year old daughter would still not have executive function skills to write down assignments. She is turning 17 this month.
We fear that she will not have any skills to take care of herself as she moves into adulthood
Tested for 3rd time found ADHDi, 95% reading, significant below average processing. She has a few ocd behaviors picking scalp and excessive nail biting. Very anxious. Conor is condions piles ontop of ADHDi. Need to Rx other stuff