My Forum Comments
First, I would like to congratulate and encourage you for the active role you are taking. I know too many parents who could learn by your example.
Every person needs to learn how to motivate themselves and find interesting activities to pursue, whether ADHD is involved or not. Maybe you can help your child identify activities they enjoy on their own. They will need this skill when they get into preschool or kindergarden. It might be helpful to observe your child when they are alone, when they see no one nearby, to notice how they spend their time. Some kids stop entertaining themselves when others are around because they learned to do that.
Alone-time and being a little bored can be a powerful tool to boost creativity and initiative.
Remind yourself that a medical diagnosis isn’t a silver bullet cure but more of the first steps down a path. Stay hopeful but do not put too much into a miracle fix. Try some treatments and experiments, hold to what works, try new ones…
It is wonderful that your husband has been trying to help you with university studies. Many spouses wouldn’t get so involved. Be sure to thank him for the effort and share with him that you are trying to follow his advice but other things are getting the way. He may be as frustrated ad you are, but he doesn’t experience the challenges as you are dealing with.
How much is your husband involved in your ADD/ADHD research? Does he know about the kinds of challenges you’re encountering?May 18, 2020 at 8:36 pm in reply to: Narrowed interests, – difficulty engaging and motivating son! Advice please. #172150
Instead of trying to resist or replace his interest in Minecraft, can you explore ways to leverage it?
Joy in discussing Minecraft could help grow friend relationships and boost social skills. Perhaps you can help him find like-minded friends (and maybe help other frazzled parents).
Minecraft is an excellent gateway to teaching software development. Ask him how he might change Minecraft to make it better, then mention that he can learn how. Local bookstores and websites have plenty of teach-yourself resources even for younger children. Plenty of skills are possible to encourage, including math and statistics (especially for dice-rolling activities), project planning your work, carefully designing and building and testing software, sharing your work with others, working with others as part of a team…