My Forum Comments
I realize this may not help but in case it does — you are not alone. And I am willing to bet you are absolutely, mind-blowingly wonderful in many, many ways.
I’m not convinced meds help a ton with organized thinking, but I do take them and do feel I’d be worse off without them.
And I must tell you that I have the exact same problem — rambling in interviews — and for me it is absolutely because I, too, have difficulty organizing and prioritizing my thoughts (definitely an ADHD trait). I think Nicole’s suggestions are terrific, especially the practicing part.
In my field (senior executive management), the questions in interviews tend to mostly be behavioral (“tell me about a time when you X”). I know that in preparation, I need to concisely write down between five and ten examples that will best answer the questions I anticipate (based on the job requirements, and other research) that I will be asked, and I do so. But I practice verbally delivering what I’ve painstakingly put together far too little, because for some reason, practicing drives me crazy. I have no patience for it.
I like Nicole’s time increment idea, and I’m going to try that.
So…Norah, you are very much not alone! Thank you for sharing, and Nicole, thank you for your suggestions!
The medication that I’ve found to be most useful for most of my ADD/ADHD symptoms (Focalin) doesn’t exactly reduce my rejection sensitivity, but I feel it helps me recognize that what I’m experiencing in a given moment is the product of rejection sensitivity, not actual rejection, and thus, dismiss that awful, sick suspicion that someone is rejecting me every time I turn around. In other words, I think that Focalin (and therapy, too, as you mentioned) helps me differentiate between the occasional genuine rejection that happens in life, from the frequent feelings of rejection that can accompany ADD/ADHD. As for Guanfacine, I did try it but could not stay on it long enough to render an opinion as I unfortunately experienced Restless Legs Syndrome (neurologic condition — “unpleasant sensations in the legs that give rise to a maddening urge to move that occurs or worsens at rest”) pretty immediately. (However, there is a history of Restless Legs Syndrome in my family, and Guanfacine may just be triggering a condition for which I am genetically predisposed.) Lastly, please don’t internalize the notion that rejection sensitivity is some sort of self-pity when, in fact, rejection sensitivity is a common, well-documented trait associated with ADD/ADHD and it is very unkind for anyone to suggest that it’s somehow YOUR fault. Hang in there, you’re not alone! All the very best to you.