My Forum Comments
Apparently my first attempt to post a response glitched out, and the page wouldn’t let me repost the response because it flagged it as a duplicate post. So, here goes again…
I’d like to chime in with regard to the philosophy of finding the job that is the “perfect fit” for you, or finding your “dream job”, I tend to agree with what Mike Rowe said to a fan who asked him about finding the right job. Mike’s response can be found HERE. The meat of his response is in the last couple of paragraphs of his reply to the fan, starting with the words, “Stop looking for the ‘right’ career”…
Before I was aware of what Mike Rowe said to this fan, I was already implementing some of his advice–not because I’m especially smart (far from it!)–but because of life experience, which I have gained a bit of in my 47 years on this earth. Of course, as an ADHD’er, much of my life experience has come from the “school of hard knocks”. As Dave Ramsey says, I have a PhD in D.U.M.B.
I’ve stopped looking for the “perfect fit” for my ADHD and have been looking for a “good enough” fit–basically a job that, while I might not LOVE it, is at least a job that I don’t HATE.
I do agree that we ADHD’ers should have the goal of finding work that plays to as many of our strengths and as few of our weaknesses as possible. For instance, I know from experience that I CAN NOT work an office job. I need to be moving around, working with my hands, solving problems, serving others. My current job as a pest control technician for TERMINIX fits that bill pretty well. There are things I don’t like about this job, for sure. But there are enough things I DO like that it keeps me engaged, and I am in the process of “becoming indispensable”, as Mike Rowe advises in the link I posted. My longer term goal is to probably start my own pest control company in another location, once I’ve saved enough money for startup costs.
Anyway, that’s my two cents’ worth.
I talk out loud too. My mom used to do it also, having conversations with herself. I do it more when I’m under stress, but I’m also aware that it makes me look mentally ill to anyone who happens to witness it, so I am careful to rein myself in when in an area where someone might overhear me. I don’t know if this is an ADHD-specific trait, or part of another mental disorder. I often wonder if my mom had ADHD. I know she had some OCD going on–repeatedly checking to make sure stove burners were off or doors were locked, saying the words “off” or “locked” repeatedly while doing it.
Looks like I’ll be the first “new” reply here, LOL.
I’d like to address the “find a job you love” or “find your passion” philosophy. I’ve been around a little while–I’m 47. Like many ADHD’ers, I have been through a number of jobs in my life. I recently came across a quote from Mike Rowe, the host of Dirty Jobs. A fan had written to him about how to find the “right” job for him. Mike’s reply was spot on, in my view. You can find the fan’s question, and Mike’s response HERE.
The meat of Mike Rowe’s advice is found in the last couple paragraphs of his response, starting with the words, “Stop looking for the ‘right’ career”.
I found truth in Mike’s words, long before I was aware of the above quote. At the same time, I also agree with those who say you should do what you can to find work that plays to as many of your strengths as possible–at least so you don’t HATE the job. If you can TOLERATE the job, then it’ll give you a paycheck while you work on yourself and figure out what your next step should be. That is what I’m doing right now. I sort of fell into my current job as a pest control professional, or PCP (called an “exterminator” in many places). I worked there for 7 years–the longest I’ve ever held a job. I left in 2013 for a few years to try my hand at being a real estate agent, which for a number of reasons did not work out (some of those reasons are related to my ADHD). I returned to pest control (same company I worked for previously) in December of 2016. I came to the realization that this particular job fits a number of my strengths and avoids some of my ADHD weaknesses. There are things I don’t like about my job, for sure. But I’m following Mike Rowe’s advice about becoming indispensable to the owner and I’m working on learning all the things I need to learn in order to either start my own pest control company in the future, or go to work for a different company as a manager.
Anyway, I hope I’ve been helpful.