Great Question! I observe others and realize that we proceed differently, process differently, and I think of myself like an immigrant with really good English, whose sub-text is lost when interacting with neuro-normals. It’s a different frame of reference, and I have to accept that they mistakenly think we are from the same culture, but really, no, we aren’t. In my culture, we don’t do things they way they do. It’s frustrating for both parties, and the confusion is understandable, but unavoidable.
ADHD is ME, and I’m a culture within a culture. I may look the same, even talk the same sometimes, but I’m not the same.