My Forum Comments
Corny title, but a great book ” Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay” . I recommend it to anyone struggling with that exact internal debate. My best friend and I read it at about the same time, when we were both struggling in relationships. She ended up leaving, I ended up recommitting to my husband, and we are both better off today!
And Don’t kid yourself about red flags. There’s no such thing as “I THINK it’s a red flag, but then again….”
What happens if there is not a choice involved, maybe just a YES or NO answer required – ” Do you want to go for a bike ride?”
And, are the questions she is being asked just for herself, or is she going to make a choice that will affect the whole family? (I.e. Will EVERYONE be going to the movies, or for a bike ride?)
To this day, as an adult, my parents Ask where I want to eat, and that’s where we’ll go. I’m not giving my opinion and then we have a discussion, weighing everyone’s options. OH NO, I am the one responsible for where all of us will eat. (Or what movie we see, etc.)
Without a choice, if she still says “I don’t know” to a Yes or No question, my suggestion (as a teacher of younger children) would be to have a conversation with her away from any questioning. Let her know you fully value her opinion, but since she hasn’t wanted to give one, you want to try something new, which will be just to tell her what to do. If she isn’t comfortable with that, then she can start answering your questions with a decision, rather than “I don’t know”
This is an issue for me just this week, as I’ve started a new job.
Im working with children, so I want a variety of supplies with me should I need them. I am also Type 1 diabetic, and want to have those supplies as well as food and drink, since I wasn’t sure what was available.
And then I was shown hooks where EVERYONE keeps their belongings, Not much room for multiple bags 😞
So instead of a purse, I’ve put insulin, test kit, and other daily necessities in a clear ziplock bag. My purse stays locked in my car, and the ziplock goes in a messenger style bag with my work materials. The purse still has my wallet, coupons, and other things that I DONT need at work. I switch the ziploc back and forth.
That’s my intention anyway!! I seem to have already lost my license, which I need (obviously) but not only for driving – I need it for proof of identity as this is a NEW job.