pbearfin

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  • in reply to: Everyone has an opinion – how do you deal with critics? #71604

    pbearfin
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    Your child is unique. But your child’s attributes are not. I have grown up with undiagnosed ADD or ADHD. As an adult I had a friend psychologist unofficially diagnose me with adult ADD.
    Every child is different and have different tools in there tool box. ADD or ADHD is just another tool in the box that you and your child need to learn how to use. Too many people look at this tool as a problem and as the only tool in a child’s box.
    Can it be a problem tool? Definitely! But using or creating other tools to work with ADD or ADHD can produce some great outcomes.
    Example. I use lists and calenders to help with my difficulty keeping track of tasks in relation to time and deadlines. I create enviroments were I can complete tasks free of destractions that I know distract me.
    These are some tools that help me. I am not perfect. I have strengths and weaknesses like everyone else. But I don’t let them define me.

  • in reply to: Dating ADD and no response to texts #71600

    pbearfin
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    I myself have issues with replying to email and texts texts. It is not that I ignore them. It is that i can’t keep them in focus. If it is in appropruate to answer at the time they fall into the aabyss. I have used tags and unread markers but some that is not always possible like when driving or working with others.
    MMy wife of ten years now still gets frustrated with my missing comunications and not remembering facts. She has learned to put things in my google calendar, send another text asking for confirmation, or just call. Basically if this hurts you and the extra work is not worth the aggrivasion, break it off. Also if you don’t get your needs filled break it off. Make sure you are happy first.

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