Ntjhu

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  • in reply to: ADHD plus PTSD – Toxic Combo? #83166
    Ntjhu
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    Well, Candy I have! and my honey buns was blind sided but he being the good guy he is handled it well. There is no shame in what we have survived, and sharing that with the closest person we will ever be with is only a good thing. I have learned to deal with tense moments over time but when bad times do come up he has my back. Sometimes all the details aren’t necessary but they get the picture. We are survivors! Never drop your head! I’m so glad you found someone ❤️

    in reply to: Constant change in interests #76200
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    I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to sound like you weren’t struggling, I know it’s hard. One of my doctors once told me to stop and give myself 30 minuets before I made a decision, it still helps me today. Just a suggestion? Sometimes what I really want is attention from my husband, I just would never ask for it. Never! Now I do, it’s still hard but I do. I just say, I need a hug, I need to talk, he was amazed! But after he got over the shock…he hugged me. ❤️. I’m not going to say it wasn’t scary, but it was worth it. I’m needy.

    in reply to: Constant change in interests #76193
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    Are you Kidding? You’re in an ADD mag. We all have this problem. ❤️. But we’re learning skills to change some of these behaviors here. Sometimes it’s hard to do, but it’s easier when we all know we are all trying to do the same thing. You’re question made me smile. 🙂

    in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76192
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    Hi, I did too until I was diagnosed properly then I had to accept that diagnosis, learn whaI needed to learn about ADHD and get going. Mine was late in life too, and after being treated for everything except what I needed there’s no wonder I felt a bit overwhelmed. Good news! You’re in the right place! And you’re already writing on this site! You’re going to be just fine. And yes you will be happy again when you get some knowledge about what’s going on under your belt. I did. ❤️

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    Yes, it has made me second guess myself, worry that what I’m doing isn’t as good as what others are. I’ve noticed that once I was diagnosed I felt like I had a disability! I never felt that way before, even though I’ve been the same way my whole life. I was treated with antidepressants, so being depressed was a better option? A doctor offered to do an extra test he knew would come back negative to prove I was not ADHD, It came back positive! He said, the first one for him. I was so upset, so was my husband. I think that’s why I quit trying. The same doctor began to support me more than ever, I found this forum, I put my meds in order. Information is power for fuel, I am now in a good place. I cannot fix the past, but I will not waste my future looking back. Today I WANT good things for myself, my ADHD is not a disability it’s my super power, my brain is different, creative, musical, I never fight the paths my brain choose to take me down. I love the ADHD Natalie. ❤️

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    Hi, I often say I would have been able to bypass many of the bad choices I made if I were given the chance of medication as a child. I did choose to self medicate and it cost me allot, with that said, I know if I could have had an understanding of my ADHD I might have chosen differently. Today I have a proper diagnosis and I do choose to use medication to help me and my family with my ADHD. I feel I was denied the chance to be who I was supposed to be because my parents were anti medication. Education along with medication with healthy motivation that’s allot of tions…today In my life finally, this is how I’m my happiest. ❤️

    in reply to: Set up for failure! #76052
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    Hi Keia, I too was diagnosed late in life, and always knew I was different. I just learned not too long ago how much I had to learn about myself. Welcome, Congratulations on your baby! I bet you’re a great mom, we ADHDers are good moms, There are so many more good things about you than negative, it took me so long to learn that. You just now got to the starting point where you could get the information you need. Things will get better from here, knowledge is wisdom! The wisdom to make better decisions, the peace to know why we do things we do, the chance to laugh with others like us. We’re really an exceptional group of people, so you’re going to be fine. I found this place just a couple of years ago, I love it! I have total faith in you, look how far you got with no information at all! That’s how smart and resourceful you are! Think about what you can do with a little insight ❤️

    in reply to: Breaking the Cycle of Failure #75808
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    Well Rory I would hardly say you are a failure, a masters degree blows failure out of the water! Being able to focuse can be challenged also, you sure are focused on what you think you havent done. There sure are allot of positives in that story of yours, sometimes we ADHDers or ADDersdont always see them, so writing them down helps? Did you see anything when you did? When I’ve wanted to start over and over and over I’ve put blocks in my way, friends? Doctors? I’ve worked to learn new habits, I’ve told my husband what I’m doing so he can stop me, help me. Sometimes what I needed was attention from the person I love and just saying I need you to hug me, I need you to listen to me, was all I needed to do. Instead of making huge decisions that affect my life so people HAVE to stop and look, I make smaller scarier ones and ask for help, hug, love. Just something I’ve learned in my life, might not be anything to do with what you are going through, I could have read this all wrong?

    in reply to: How can I convert ADHD non believers? #71899
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    Sometimes when someone admires something about me,usually it’s my music, I share with them the reason for my gift. I tell them ADHD people usually are gifted. Most say nothing, some have shared they are, some ask questions. ADHDers are all over the place, sometimes in places of taking care of others, teaching others their gift, we need to be brave not letting the stigma about ADHD silence us. Most of us have been punished even mentioning it to relatives or friends, now though we have to say no more. We are gifted! One person at a time, just like we’re doing ❤️

    in reply to: A poem… #70021
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    Thank you ❤️. Beautiful, kinda sad story.

    in reply to: Dealing with other Parents who don't understand #70020
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    Thank you for being a parent that puts up with us adhd kids, I didn’t have a parent like you, so thank you for everything you do. 👏🥇🎖🏅🎗

    in reply to: To the ADHD partner from the Non-ADHD one. #69660
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    Thank you. We are trying. We take our medication!

    in reply to: Has Anyone Had and Conquered This Issue? #69659
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    I’ve had hypersensitivity all of my life, this is what it sounds like to me. I’ve also been in a family that demanded I suppress my emotions! To be around people who do not or would not recognize my emotions was devastating to my life, my health, now that I’m older my hypersensitivity demands to be acknowledged, this article helped me immensely! Applying the advice has helped me to actually be able to reach out again and help those I can in a setting that is more conducive for me. I’ve always known these things, it’s something that I myself could have written, I just didn’t know what it was, hypersensitivity! It was so great to know it had a name.

    in reply to: How to deal with friends who don't understand your ADHD? #69658
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    You sound like you know exactly what you’re talking about, being only twenty you have a good understanding about our incredibly awesome way of life. When we are ok with our ADHD others will sense that and know they can’t itimidate us or embarrass us about it. The best way to teach her about you is to own exactly who you are, in a kind way never apologize for being who you are or what you deal with, and when I deal with my crazy I own that too. I’m not embarrassed about my anxiety attack’s or the fact I cannot go into a grocery store! I own it! When you own these things you take their power away to hurt you, and hopefully help them see your power to overcome any shame you have about having ADHD. So hold your head up my fellow ADHD er!! We are awesome people, beautiful, strong, talented, with a little twist in thinking that’s just ok ❤️

    in reply to: I don't know how to tell my parents I failed this semester #66876
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    First of all you need to stop and breath, do some breathing, and think about what will happen if you are not the person they learn it from. Second music is something that we who have the ability own! No one can ever take it! No one can limit it, it’s always with us. Music comes from our souls, our very selves, so for the rest of your life it will be there. Fix this with your parents and relax about your gift of music, it’s all good and it will all work out fine! Your parents love you, first write out what you want to say, and it’s good you still want to please your parents, so you must be a really good person…right? So they must be really good people to have such a loving person who cares about them. You guys do not sound scary at all 🤗

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