My Forum Comments
Starting over is tough. I had to do it at 47. When you have to do it, it helps, b/c you have no choice. If you really hate what you’re doing, think of it as now having the opportunity you wanted before. You can go any direction you want. Consider your choices, decide what you want to do, and go for it.
There’s a famous story about a woman who wanted to go back to school and finish her degree. She went to talk to the dean at her local college and told him, “I want to finish my degree, but I need 36 more hours, and I can attend only part-time, and it will take me 4 years, and in 4 years I’ll be 42 years old!” The dean said to her, “Let me ask you–how old will you be in 4 years if you *don’t* go back to school?”
So you see, it doesn’t matter that you’ve had a false start. What matters is what you do from this point forward.August 6, 2018 at 7:55 pm in reply to: Think Before You Act? Easier Said Than Done (new user) #90433
Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s perfectly normal to not read instructions, especially if you’re 1, male, and 2, ADD. (Funny joke. Why does it take 400 million sperm to fertilize one egg? Because they won’t ask directions.) So just do the best you can. Often there’s no need to read the instructions, or at least not all of them. Then, when your impulsiveness gets you in trouble, take a step back and regroup. You can always recover if you slow down, back up, and get things under control. I’m 68 now. I didn’t know I had ADD until I was ~40. If I had known these things when I was in high school, it would’ve made a huge difference for me. Good luck!
You should’ve gotten their approval of all accommodations in writing. Now it’s your word against theirs. If it’s a place you want to stay at and work for, get an attorney and fight them. If not, quit and file a grievance with every govt. agency you can find.
1, He’s winning, you’re losing. Get *yourself* a therapist and find out why you’re allowing a NINE-year-old to dominate you. 2, Get him a new therapist who will get him new meds that will bring him down into a more normal behavior pattern. 3, Take control of your family. Set boundaries without apology and enforce them. Deprive him, confine him, spank him, whatever works to make him behave and to allow you to regain control and sanity. 4, This is much, much more, and worse, than simply AD/HD. You need a specialist. Most doctors know next to nothing about these issues. Find a certified, qualified specialist who can help you.