MsUnderStood

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  • in reply to: dropped by provider, no taper, no referral, help! #135758
    MsUnderStood
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    I am a 46 year old female and this happened to me when I moved to a new county. They changed my diagnosis without a proper assessment because they dont like Adderall. I tried to advocate for myself and it made it worse. The questions that I asked resulted in a insulting judgement response. They closed my file per my request which was a lie. I tried to see what l could do. Everything I’ve read says they were wrong. But the fear of asking for help consumes me. Every day I keep trying to manage life and usually I fail one y or another. The more I ask for help, the more “med seaking” I even. The more information I gave them, the more I was accused of “knowing how to play the system”. I wanted to drive my car into a tree after every session. They validated everything negative I was told as a child. I just keep trying to change what my brain can’t learn.

    in reply to: Expressing Emotions #99050
    MsUnderStood
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    With all due respect, we the parents, like to hover and protect. We’re worse if our child has a diagnosis that put them at risk for being labeled “different”. Remember, he’s a 9 year old boy first. Think about What goes on with boys his age. Could it be there’s a cute girl in his class he’s discovered a feeling that’s “weird”? Remember, girls had koodies once. Could it be that he’s noticing physical changes? Maybe puberty is early for him. Ask yourself how many times a day you ask him how he feels? What’s your tone like? Have you changed how you respond and react since his diagnosis? You are VERY important to him. Taking care of you during this time, is vital.

    I could go on for days but I’ll end with this. He has communicated and has clearly stated how he feels. When I dont’ feel like I”m being heard, I get upset, shut down and raise my voice.

    I’m typing to you with a caring tone and without judgment. Parenting is challenge. Parenting a child with special needs is even more challenging.

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