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March 14, 2020 at 10:04 am in reply to: I don't really think ADHD medication is working for me #144856
Any medication will have some mix of effects for you; some positive, some neutral, some negative. Look for meds that help more than they hinder. Amantadine is mentioned in “Healing ADHD”.
Other things you can do for yourself:
- Supplements such as fish oil
- Exercise helps a lot
- An ADD coach (once you find a good fit)
- Breath meditation trains your brain to know how to be calm
- Eat well
- Get enough good sleep
Another possibility is shame issues.
Breath meditation helps train brains (ADD or neuro-typical) to be present. Try doing breath meditation together (a class may help).
Try reading a book that you are both interested in together. Perhaps a book on ADD in relationships.
Keep at it, and good luck!
I suck at making and keeping friends too. Given that I don’t have great skills in this area, I have kind of outsourced this to people who are good at this. Some ideas for getting more social contact (and practice for social skills):
- ADD support group
- Meetup dot com group that matches any of your interests
- Improv classes, which I think of as “supervised adult play date.” Being random and spontaneous is a valuable skill here! Plus someone else takes care of scheduling, getting other people to come, and coming up with fun games to play.
- Any (in-person) class that matches your interests
- Volunteer for a cause you consider worthwhile
- Join a club
- A counselor (who is a good fit for you) can be a tutor for social skills. Some people are ‘naturals’ but the rest of us have to learn how, and a good teacher can help.
- Meditation, to train your brain how to be calm
One important factor is the ‘vibe’ you give off. It really helps to give off “purring cat” instead of “snarling dog”. This is a habit, and building it may take work, but it’s possible to at least shift habits gradually.
Edit: work on learning to notice the positive and give compliments. If nothing else, notice that they tried. Swap places in your mind: do you like being with someone who notices and points out your mistakes, or your successes?
- This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by MrScott.