middleagedwoman

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  • in reply to: New doctor issues #102093
    middleagedwoman
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    Ooh, I feel your pain, also had issues with new primary doctor. How did you get the diagnosis in the first place? By a psychiatrist? Can you get refferred back to that psychiatrist? Or maybe your doctor can discuss the diagnosis with that psychiatrist? Or get referred to a new psychiatrist? Behavioral center? What is that? I think your doctor suspects Borderline personality dosorder. I suggest you read up on both diagnoses, go through your life, write down symptoms of ADD that you had etc. Also use the argument that the medication helped you, it would not help Borderline, anyway, people can also have both diagnoses. If doctor suspects abuse, maybe suggest Strattera or Guanfacine, other ADHD meds without abuse potential. A least to show youre willing to try.

    The way you describe your problems without Adderal, I feel also indicate that your diagnosis is right ( if you had written that now you are without energy and dont get things done, I could more have thought that your doctor might have had a point)

    in reply to: Work is So Draining #80395
    middleagedwoman
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    Horrible ADHD woman at work. Gave me insight. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4VoZPxD22zM

    in reply to: Work is So Draining #80394
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    Sorry, read wrong, maybe my medicine started working now. It takes you longer to understand what is going on, I thought, “longer now than before”, but it is “longer than others”. Therefore, I wrote sbout your recent difficulties. Well, you may become stressed out, so read it anyway. Now my advise is to really “keep it simple, stupid” at work. People not only lack understanding and appreciation if your overboard analyses, they most probably hate you for it, shake their heads and smile a bit. Hate your excuses, the time you take telling the excuses etc. Never tell them which interesting thought caused you to be scattered! There is a funny youtube video with a horrible woman at work, a short sketch about ADHD. Oh, I am so embarrassed with myself and angry over having destroyed a good career. Yes, you may have few bosses or colleagues who see and appreciate your brilliance, but if you work with many people, some generel negative sentiment may prevail, especislly if they have to think back after some years in a rehiring situation. Deadlines! F… your good ideas.

    in reply to: Work is So Draining #80393
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    Sorry, my all time advise: keep expenses down! Your time and health are so important! Car, house, minimise!
    Pension companies ( well, i dont know you country) try to convince us that we need yearly luxury cruises when we get 90 I dont, I will need memories of a good life, I will rather die old, poor and happy, than old, rich and bitter, I already lost my joy in life, no travel dreams nothing. I had those! I am only 51 and hope to regain it, but….

    in reply to: Work is So Draining #80392
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    Wauw, sounds much like me. Congrats on having managed to get into consultancy work and the self insight. Sorry, cannot help, but your recent difficulties sounds to me like stress/beginning burnout. With consultncy, can you work less? I would like to hear later how you manage. Well, I think forcing yourself to exercise instead of tv/ internet would be a good advise…. I know that from reading about it and occassional experiences of myself how a walk by the beach, cycling trip etc made me feel better. I truly know the need for TV or games like solitaire, minesweeper to unstress. Stress can become very bad. Just heard of a busy, high achieving mom, who was sent out to cut wood in a forest on a daily basis ( slept at home ) for 6 months by an Occupational Medicine Clinic. I was surprised that they really seem to know how severe it is. I just stopped working because I knew 14 days sick leave would do nothing for me. If you get better, I think your self insight will help you deal better with work. Do you work in open plan office with noise? I really think that has been a problem for me, without realising it, another reason to stay late at work, when it finally gets quiet, one can actually begin to focus! Well, I really think the exercise thing may be worth trying, something to drain the body, maybe complicated at the same time, so your brain is forced to think on that, and causing sore muscles and better sleep. Focus on getting yourself healthy, rather than making this extremely perfect analysis… which they don’t understand or appreciate anyway. Get a more egoistic feeling, do you understand? Think “ I am only in it for me”

    in reply to: Welcome to the ADDitude Forums! #74967
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    Hi, I made a profile in 2015 or 2016. I forgot my password and my emailadress wasnt recognised and I now made a new profile. Any chance, I can find my old profile or has everything changed at some stage?

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