I could not take the stimulant meds for years because of a heart condition I have, which has hurt my career as a lawyer. I was finally cleared to take stimulants, and I take Vyvanse, which I am not as happy with as I was with sustained release ritalin.
My wife and kids refuse to take meds, despite my psychiatrist testing them and recommending them. He especially thought my wife would benefit, but she is too proud and married to the blame game (I am right and normal and all my problems are everyone else’s fault) to even acknowledge the (very strong) possibility that she may have ADHD or some similar impairment, and is certainly intolerant of ADHD in me and the children. I wish I had an answer but I do not.