Is there any way to create a daily system where they can become more independent and feel more in charge of their learning? I have ADD also so it is so hard to stay focused and consistent when there are so many distractions myself. Charts? white boards? incentive charts or tickets to earn something or special time with mom or dad? It may take a little while at first, but I think if I could come up with a system that they agree on and are part of creating, they may not want to depend on mom as much as before- feel confident by taking some ownership of their learning.