Kava

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  • in reply to: I can’t forgive and forget and bare grudges #101585
    Kava
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    It sounds like you are describing my ADD-with-anxiety daughter, who is now 20. She never had much trouble MAKING friends, but when whenever a transition point came (summer camp ended, a move from middle to high school or high school to college) she always seems to dump the old social group cold, sometimes on a pretext of a mild squabble. But any time there is any tension, she is quite a bridge-burner. Her psychiatrist believes it’s partly the impulsivity of ADD, and partly the anxiety that makes her lash out, out of proportion to a situation. Then the ADD-typical inability to apologize or admit wrongdoing seals the deal, and she is forced to realize she is friendless again – until she finds a new situation where no one heard of her past behavior. I am hoping that maturity will help, because talking about it with her only angers her.

    in reply to: How old is too old for a "tattle book"? #101581
    Kava
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    I feel your your pain.
    My youngest is a struggling high school sophomore. In the many years I have been “working with” teachers to make life easier for them as well as my own SE kids, two things never cease to amaze me; 1) The low level of information many teachers who are specially trained in SE seem to possess, and 2) the fact that so many teachers whose personalities appear to be in direct opposition to what is required to teach an ADD/ADHD classroom (ie, calm, flexible, patient, inventive) seem to have chosen to work with special needs students in spite of themselves.

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