karenmoss.bryan

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  • in reply to: scared of becoming an adult w adhd #182424
    karenmoss.bryan
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    In my mid-40s, my 7 year old was diagnosed with ADD. Then I began to see similarities in me, my family. I was so relieved to be able to have a reason for my struggles, similar to yours. Now 51, I’m questioning this leap of faith I had in a diagnosis. My son’s and my emotional and even physical behaviors are reflective of a threatening environment, past and present. Family or school weren’t able to admit or identify our pain. So neither could we. Now, after all your years of “treatment” and trying a million different ways to comply with the adults and peers, you are now expected to not only continue to submit but also somehow know how to be the master of your life, by yourself, without ever having the agency to choose your best version of you. Until now, perhaps? School, shmool.

    in reply to: Drained mommy #81942
    karenmoss.bryan
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    I struggle to keep my role as mom simple: to be a compassionate, kind person who will genuinely listen and not judge harshly. I want to be a safe place for my adhd son to land when his world inevitably becomes overwhelming and confusing. I’ve vainly tried to make him be “normal” by enrolling him into activities he does not enjoy, enforcing school-driven homework expectations, goading him into dressing a certain way, etc, only to realize I was causing him unecessary, painful anxiety. The larger world out there will continue to challenge him, but I won’t. Hopefully he will always feel free to talk to me about his struggles because he knows I simply love him. What more could I ask for?

    in reply to: Is it beneficial for the child to know they have ADHD? #62352
    karenmoss.bryan
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    I am a recently diagnosed ADHD mom of a nine year old ADHD son. I struggle with the following opposing realities: We ADHDers think and act differently while the rest of the world demands that we perform like average thinkers. For efficiency, school and workplaces are designed to accommodate the largest segment of the population: average thinkers. My biggest question is: should I try to teach my son how to assimilate into our culture or should I encourage him to find and stay with his “own kind”?

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