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This Ross Green approach is new to me, but sounds like something I will check into, some things we do a lot in our clinic. Another approach is the Floortime approach designed by Dr. Stanley Greenspan. It is commonly recommended for Autism but is adaptable with many other diagnoses.
Blessings to all you mamas who won’t give up on your kids!
Without getting into a discussion on whether or not that is a cause if these “disorders” it is important to find a solution that works with what we are dealing with now. Know that you are not alone and you just need to find the right professionals to help your child. It will be a combination of things and people that works and the most important thing to have for your child, and yourself, is compassion, and patience. Start every day as a new day. Good luck AJSD.
I like how this article identifies the problem of anxiety. With ADHD, Anxiety, ODD, and many other diagnosis, the inability to self regulate your emotions means that your reaction can only be fight or flight. For me, anxiety attacks still send my heart racing, my blood pumping, when in a challenging situation even when I know that I’m fine! When I know that I’ve got this presentation, or this important meeting. My body still gets disregulated. Sensory diets can help with this, as well as using the ALERT system or, working on identifying how a child’s “engine” is running. Please see my post in the comments below.
This is not about a parenting style, please don’t add to this mama’s stress. If you have personal experience with this I would appreciate your perspective, but otherwise, the purpose of this thread is to offer support, not criticism for what we’re trying to do that’s not working.
I am a pediatric Occupational Therapy Asstant in an out patient therapt clinic, ADHD parent of teen daughters with ADHD, ASD and CAPD, and I relate well to your struggles from watching my brother’s behaviors as I grew up, as a parent, and now as a therapist.
There is an answer, but it needs to be designed by a therapist specifically for your child. Psych counseling is important, but sensory diets and training on identifying and and managing his emotions is what he needs before rewards will work. Who cares if you don’t get your ipad in 2 hours, if your body( his body) is a mess right now, it doesn’t matter.
Now, I know what people say. My kid already gets OT in school, or doesn’t qualify in school. Ive been there too. School only qualifies/ treats things that directly impact his ability to receive an education, which right now in many places does not include sensory diets, self regulation training or coping strategies. I would encourage you to see what outpatient services might be available to you in your area for Occupational Therapy, and see what they can do to help. I live in mid/state NC. Not sure what might be available to you, but when I get clients like your son,like my daughter, I wonder why we are always told that if they dont need services at school, the only thing we could do was change their medicine or parenting style. Good luck, and please look into these things that I’ve mentioned.
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