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So sorry to hear that about your 14 year old, that is very tough. I had a similar situation with my daughter, who eventually was diagnosed with ODD also. For me and my husband it was really hard at first, especially when we were not sure about how we were supposed to teach our daughter. We came in contact with a specialist, who told us that in order to help our daughter we needed more help than what we could possibly give as parents. When you say you are exhausted and don’t know what to do anymore, I think it’s because there isn’t something else you can do, at least not by yourself. When we finally received help from specialists, I saw results in my daughter. I found a link that I think could really help you out as it kinda describes the pressure that parents of kids with ADHD have to deal with. https://helpyourteennow.com/adhd-boarding-schools/
I wish you the best of luck! Keep being a great mom like you are!November 30, 2017 at 9:35 am in reply to: How do I help my recently diagnosed 13-year-old daughter #69140justcallmemamaParticipant
So sorry to hear you both are dealing with all of that! ADHD and ODD by themselves are such a struggle, I can’t imagine what they are like together.
I can see how the school thinks punishing her will work, but they just don’t understand her diagnoses. Of course punishments won’t work. They will just continue to push her farther away from wanting to attend school and learn.
I think it’s important to continue to have open discussions with the school about her progress. Maybe even involve an outside counselor for your daughter to visit with and to help the school see how best to help her and see her progress.
As for helping your daughter, I’m not an expert but I do know of a few resources that might help. Creating structure and following a routine is key. And rewarding is too. It won’t be perfect, there will have to be compromises, but that’s just how it is.
ODD seems to be misunderstood too and I’ve had to do my own research to better understand it. Here are a few infographics that I’ve found helpful with understanding them and deciding which steps to take next.