Mamamia

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  • in reply to: I’m trying but I’m done. #141490

    Mamamia
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    I feel I am now pretty calm and controlled and shouting and screaming would be a rarity. However, the anger and resentment I feel is building and on my mind I am screaming and thinking horrible things about how much I dislike this person ( yet also love). There are days I am like a verbal battering ram and I am so exhausted by it all I want to just scream.

  • in reply to: Helping to deter from rude behavior? #141488

    Mamamia
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    Mama, I am looking for the exact same thing myself. Like you I now feel alot is beyond his control yet for me this behaviour is getting worse and is appalling and cant go unchecked. I have tried so much. I have had a long chat with him using the explosive child book as a reference and have tried to work with him to agree some things. Ome of the ‘ consequences’ I have started is withdrawal of game time.

    • This reply was modified 5 months ago by  Mamamia.
  • in reply to: Explosive child – trying plan B #141661

    Mamamia
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    Thanks Annette. Yes, this sounds like me. Often counting the minutes and hours down. I have so much compassion inside as I keep persisting with love and kindness yet after hours and hours of extreme moodiness, unkindness and then these explosive aggressive fits of rage I feel hopeless, angry and desperately sad. I have alot of health problems and for someone like me it is difficult to manage the constant tension and stress. Ultimately I do feel very sorry for my son. I know this must be awful and who wants to be that way; no one. I’m scheduled for an adhd assessment in 6 weeks. I hate the thought of medication but realise things as they are are so terrible.
    Yes it would be really nice to chat. I will see if there is a messaging option in here 🙂

  • in reply to: Explosive child – trying plan B #141660

    Mamamia
    Participant

    Thanks Penny, sending my son to his room is only something that has intensified recently as he has been so explosive I’m desperately trying to contain it. I’ve sought advice through my own counselling and realise this is very rejecting. I’m keen to diffuse things asap as we live with my parents. ( this is necessary as I need the help).
    I’m pretty good at remaining calm yet my body is flooded with cortisol in the face of a tall, aggressive 7 year old. I have tried disengaging but my son will follow pleading, screaming and shouting until you agree; and I won’t. I will simply say I understand what you’re saying and hear how angry and upset you are. I will say we both need time out but get followed and this continues. I cannot just leave it and pretend someone isn’t there screaming and shouting at me. If it dissipated quickly, I could but it goes on. I’m loathed to do it but feel locking myself in the toilet will be my only option next. Im sure he will try boot the door in.
    I just want a little niceness and kindness sometimes to help offset the negativity. It is intensifying and my feelings are a natural human response. I will and do keep trying.

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