JohnH

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  • in reply to: ADHD is destroying my life, HELP #201243
    JohnH
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    Sometimes if you contact the company that makes your medication they will help in getting it to you sometimes for free, sometimes with a small co-payment. Until you find another job, maybe your county mental health could see you. Did you say you had been an engineer for 20 yrs? If so you must be very intelligent. I hope you can find some assistance soon.

    in reply to: Ritalin #201031
    JohnH
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    John’s psychiatrist is putting him on Clonidine, to be taken around 8 pm. He took this as a child, but I have no memory of how it worked. Living in a household with a total of 7 people makes for some rough days stresswise. John is blessed to have a nice, large room in the finished basement with his own bathroom. He does have a short fuse, and this may sound to the extreme, but it is almost like he has something like PTSD from being bullied relentlessly in school. He is almost 25, and still brings this up. His mother will be moving in soon, and she will be able to help with him. He loves his mom so much, and I does not seem to have any recollection of the many times she left he and his sister (due to drugs). Thank God this is way in the past, and she is doing much better.

    in reply to: Always Struggling #141435
    JohnH
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    I am so sorry you are having these difficulties. You are wrong I believe when you say anyone can do your current job. I think it takes a special person to work with the elderly. I am 70, and was a nurse for many years, so I have some experience in this area. I am on this website because my 23 yr. old grandson who has ADHD, learning difficulties, and developmental delays lives with my husband, and myself, and also 2 of his aunts. I worry about his ability to even qualify for a job stocking in a grocery store. Hopefully, one day he may be able to. I’m not at all trying to make lite of your difficulties, but please give yourself credit for all that you have accomplished to only be in your late 20’s. I know you have a degree in psychology, but do you have a psychologist that you can talk to . I think it is so helpful to have someone that is not a relative or friend to talk to. My grandson has had a psychologist since he was 7 yr. old. Be proud of yourself, and I hope you find someone you can talk to. John’s Grandma

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son unable to call about job due to anxiety #135148
    JohnH
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    Thank you so much for the encouraging words!! I have spoken with VR here in Atlanta, and they no longer schedule appointments. You just go and have to wait (they may have had some people that did not keep their appts., and not call to cancel) not sure just a thought. I have read reviews from parents that took their young adults to the program, and after going through the program was not successful in finding employment. Even though John did graduate he was in classes with very few students, and had one on one teacher when needed. I think he was so supported (and he did need it), that maybe he is unsure of what degree of support he will have at a workplace setting. He is unable to tell or count money. His memory is so poor, even with taking Ritalin. His community based support lady has told us to sit tight at this point. Again, thank you so much for your reply. It helps so much to have support, especially when you are a 70 y/o grandma. Thank you, Sharon Harvey

    in reply to: Hygiene for Teens #129394
    JohnH
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    My grandson is 23, and is really interested in having a girlfriend . I don’t have a problem with his hygiene, but when he eats he just crams the food in.We h had many discussions about this, but I still have to remind him constantly about his manners. I explain to him, that when he does have a date with a young lady and he eats like that it will be the only date. I know this is a rather common thing that males with ADHD seem to do. Now I understand that his Ritalin takes his appetite away, and when he wears off watch out!! He’s is so hungry, and will eat anything he finds regardless if it is leftovers a family member is saving. He is really putting on weight which is a concern. He has had a couple short term girlfriends, but he is very immature so in due time. Gma

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #129076
    JohnH
    Participant

    Good Morning,
    I followed your instructions about sending msg. on Facebook. I sent it a few days ago. Did you receive it? Hope so. Sharon

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128925
    JohnH
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    Heather, John was cat fished awhile back. He would not believe this gorgeous girl who contacted him was not madly in love with him. He got so angry at me, and others in the family that tried to explain the concept to him and how it worked. Finally, after his therapist explained that she had been cat fished did he accept what had happened. To show him how it works I made up a fake Facebook, with a beautiful girls picture that was in an ad, and posted a sweet message. Well, to be honest I had my daughter to do it because I don’t have a clue how cat fishing works. That is why the name you will find me under is Marie Davis. I was able to remove the larger picture , but don’t know how to remove the name. So, if you see the small pix of a beautiful, young girl-it is not me. Ha, ha. If you can see the pix on that site you will see John taking a pix of himself. Have a great day in beautiful So. Cali. Sharon

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128742
    JohnH
    Participant

    Thank you!! I will have to get one of my family members help me (or maybe John can help me). I will ask and try my best to respond. I do not know what is wrong, that only one line of my paragraph is being sent. I am almost 70, and do good to send a text. Ha, ha. Have a nice weekend.

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128735
    JohnH
    Participant

    continued from 9/21/at 9:06pm expect more from him than he is capable of doing, because he has a regular diploma. I would like to give you my email address (if that is ok with you) in hopes that you will let me know when you have other suggestions. I do like the ones you wrote the other night. Thank you, Sharon

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128733
    JohnH
    Participant

    I am going to try this again. The reason I sometimes regret pressing the school to give my grandson a regular diploma is that I sometimes think his therapist, psychiatrist, and others that work with him may expect too much due to his diploma. He spent his last 2 yrs. of high school in self contained classes with very few students. I do like your idea about Petco, as John does love animals. I would like to give you my email address so when you have suggestions (I do like the ones you mentioned) you would share them with me. I will wait to see if you give the okay before sending it. Hope the rest of your weekend goes well. Sharon

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128714
    JohnH
    Participant

    I will try to reply once again. The reason I sometimes regret pushing that my grandson get a regular diploma is that I think some of the therapists, counselors, community based support people, etc expect more from him than he is capable of doing right now. He has LD, ADHD, math disorder, hydrocephalus, chromosomal abnormality. He was in a self-contained classroom his Jr. and Sr. yrs. When they gave the tests that indicate what profession a student might be good at, they came back with airline pilot. Just goes to show how inaccurate some tests can be. John has never learned to ride a bicycle, and certainly is unable to drive, but I know there has to be something that is enjoys doing. He loves my 3 y/o great grandson very much, and will sit down and play with him. I would like to give you my email if that would be ok, and would appreciate it if you have ANY suggestions. Thank you so much, Sharon

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128712
    JohnH
    Participant

    Did my complete post not print out ?

    in reply to: 23 y/o g/son with ADHD, LD, #128711
    JohnH
    Participant

    Thank you so much for your reply. It is such a relief to communicate with someone that can understand my grandson’s challenges. I had not thought about the Petco adoption program. He does love our dogs, and cries when one of our pets gets old and passes. He and I have had so many discussions about something he is interested in doing. He dealt with so much bullying in high school, that I don’t know that further schooling is an option (unless it was online). The reason I feel I may have made a mistake in almost insisting he receive a regular diploma, is that I think it gives counselors, community based workers, etc. the opinion that he is capable or more than he actually is. Sometimes when his therapist is making suggestions on things John should try I almost have asked her if we are speaking about the same young man. I have had numerous discussions with him trying to find something he would be interested in trying-with no luck. His father who lives about 30 min. from us works on movie sets (as Georgia has become a major state for movie making), but I don’t believe they have an apprentice program, and I know this job involves power tools, et. I would like to give you my email address (if that is alright) and ask that if you come up with ANY suggestions that you would feel free to contact me. again, thank you for your reply. Sharon

    in reply to: Lethargic and fatigue #84446
    JohnH
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    My 22 yr. old grandson takes 20mg three times a day, and sometimes you would not think he took any. He will start te lling me something, and will go on and on. He is a sweet boy, but gets very upset when asked to get his attention on something else for awhile. He also is developmentally delayed, and very immature. He sees a psychologist, as well as group support once a week. Would appreciate any suggestions. Thank you, Grandme

    in reply to: can't add new topic #84412
    JohnH
    Participant

    I am also having difficulty following the new forums. I have received help over the years from people that reply to questions including from yourself, but at 68 with some memory issues I feel like I am lost and have lost a very important support system. Any help would be greatly appreciated. there was also a gentleman by the name of john I believe who I think is a ADHD mentor who also offered excellent advice. My 22 yr. old grandson with ADHD, as well as developmental differences lives with my husband and myself and it can sometimes be a daily challenge. Thank you, Sharon Harvey sdh4561@yahoo.com Please feel to send a private email as I don’t know if I will be able to find this email again.

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