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  • in reply to: Funny Stories About ADHD Symptoms #116756

    My mom once made a joke about ADHD. The punchline was “Hey look, a squirrel!”

    I totally zoned out while she was telling the joke and only heard the last part, to which I excitedly responded “Where?!”

  • in reply to: The ADHD Home Chef #113992

    I’m actually pretty good with following recipes. I always have to read the recipe a few times before I start and I always get all the ingredients out before I start, though occasionally I have to send mom to the store because I overestimated how much of something was left in the bag. I also read each step a few times before I do it and read the steps before and after as well to make sure I’m not missing anything. It slows me down a bit but I’m a fast reader.

    I’ve noticed, though, that I get nervous when the instructions aren’t particularly exact, which is why I prefer baking to actual cooking. It’s especially frustrating for me to make something the first time when my mom will only give me vague instructions from the living room rather than walking me through it. But baking, which has instructions and times for how long It should be the oven is much better. If it gives me at least a minimum time then I can set a timer and not worry about burning it. being told to cook something “until it’s done” is incredibly stressful for me because I’m relatively inexperienced and terrified of burning things.

    I also hate cooking a lot of things at once. I’m getting more used to things like cooking eggs without burning the bacon, but if it’s more than two things that need constant attention, I usually forget about one of them whilst doing everything else at the same time.

    I also agree that recipie times are ridiculous and you should always budget at least an hour unless it’s something very simple.

  • in reply to: Do I Really Have ADD? #111438

    My first recommendation would be to talk to your doctor and see if you can get tested by a specialist. It can be really difficult to diagnose, especially with comorbid disorders like anxiety.

    I’d also suggest making a list of symptoms you exhibit that could be adhd, and another list of things that you feel might point away from it. It might also help to examine the way you think and interact with others. Are you impulsive? Do you tend to have many racing thoughts? Any experiences with executive dysfunction, fidgeting, etc? It sounds like you can hyperfocus but also tend to get distracted when overwhelmed by information.

    Also, examples of notably not showing adhd symptoms can always be examined more. Is being early a coping mechanism to prevent lateness? Could your success in school be attributed to being interested in the material, or a successful set of habits to prevent yourself from being overwhelmed? You seem to have trouble with multi-step directions when they are spoken, such as directions, but are fine when they’re written down or presented in certain ways, like in your example about IKEA instructions. You also mentioned carrying paper everywhere. It’s possible that your situation is similar to that of my mother, who has mild ADHD but successfully managed her symptoms through various self taught coping mechanisms. Are there other odd habits you’ve formed to help yourself function that others don’t necessarily need? Are there strange behaviors you exhibit that aren’t necessarily symptoms, but could be related to them?

    Another thing I’d recommend is talking to family, friends, etc. about what kind of symptoms you may exhibit or what kinds of symptoms you may have had in the past. It’s hard to remember how you responded to things in the past, and it can also be hard to gauge your own symptoms. If you do have ADHD, it’s also totally possible that you aren’t great with self awareness and thus there may be some things you haven’t picked up on.

    That’s my 2 cents. I’m no expert by any means, but those are the things that spring to mind when I read about your situation.

  • in reply to: Music #110106

    I play cello and have ADHD! I’ve been in the orchestra at my school since 6th grade and I’m now a senior. I have trouble practicing consistently, but when I do, I could play for hours. I really enjoy the challenge of figuring out songs by ear. I know I get frustrated easily if the price has a complicated key signature. I tend to forget what key I’m in and extensions aren’t fun when you have tiny hands, lol. I know I’ve gone through a lot of medication changes and when I switched from my long-faithful concerta my mom noticed a drop in skill, though I’m unsure if it was sloppy playing or having trouble with practicing. I also tend to turn to music, both listening and playing, for emotional support.

    As far as the music I listen to, I have a lot of trouble listening to songs if it can’t draw my attention quickly. I like slow songs but If the music is too drawn out without much interesting stuff in between I can’t listen to it. I also tend to hyperfixate on certain songs, albums genres, etc. For example, I’ll listen to a song on repeat for days, memorize it, sing it all the time, learn to play it on my cello, etc. until I get bored of it or find a new song. I also really like fast songs or songs with lots of interesting harmonies bc they draw my attention. I’m a big fan of listening to fingerstyle guitar covers of songs I like. They’re calming and strip the songs to the bare bones, but are complex enough to hold attention and soothing enough to use as background music.

  • in reply to: I should know better than to try explaining to my mother #107571

    I kinda get how you feel. :/ My mom knows and accepts that I have adhd, and says she has it herself, but trying to explain ED just makes her think I’m lazy. I try to explain the difference between being on stimulants and not being on them and she says “So basically it’s a motivation issue” as if I could motivate myself. She says “Well I feel good when I get things done” and I tell her that I don’t feel that very much and she acts like it’s a personality flaw.

  • in reply to: Intuniv – what are peoples experiences? #107569

    I’m currently on Intuniv, and have used it in combination with concerta (Not a young child though, I was 17 at the time) I’m not sure about the benefits, because I don’t seem to respond to it, but It can affect sleep, making me more tired, and it lowers heart rate and blood pressure.

  • Sounds like you need to find a different psychiatrist! If they think you’re making up your symptoms, they’re probably not a good doctor for you. Ask for someone else.

  • in reply to: ADD teen with meltdowns/anxiety #104953

    You should talk to your doctor/psychiatrist and your mom as well. You need to explain that the medication is causing negative side effects. It sounds like the effects are pretty bad, so you should probably have your mom schedule an appointment as soon as possible so your doc can help you figure out what to do.

  • in reply to: I am scared (Sorry for throwing out a lot of stuff) #104937

    Hey, I don’t really have a lot of advice here but I just want to say I know how you feel. ADHD can be a mess and I get it. I’ve had a lot of the same problems, school, anxiety, coming out as bi, and it’s hard. High school has been a huge struggle. My junior year was the worst. I’m a senior right now, and I’m still in a bit of a mess as far as school goes.

    Coming from someone who’s had a lot of trouble figuring myself out, don’t be afraid to tell people what you think is going on. It’s okay to talk about yourself sometimes. And even if you turn out to be wrong about yourself, it’s okay. The people who care about you want to know what you’re going through, and they’ll accept you for who you are as you figure yourself out. It’s okay to be wrong, it’s okay to be scared, it’s okay to be stressed and anxious and afraid of being judged. Believe me, I’ve been there. Just test the waters with one person at a time. Find the one person you trust most, and wait for the opportunity, or make one, and tell them everything. Finding someone who you can talk to is super important in figuring things out. (I found someone and well… now I have a boyfriend.)

    Also don’t be afraid of wasting your time. You have your whole life ahead of you. If something doesn’t work out, it’s not a waste. It’s just a part of your life, and you can always start over with something new. Don’t be afraid of doing things too late or wasting time. Time doesn’t really mean anything, don’t be afraid of living your life in whatever order you want. Hair grows back, tattoos hold memories, and picking up a violin can change your life… or it might fall flat, but that’s okay! I wanted to play drums and get a girlfriend, take AP Classes and learn to program computers– now I play the Cello, have the best boyfriend in the world, am taking classes I enjoy and like to paint. Once you start to realize that you can do whatever makes you happy, things become easier. I’m still stressed, I’ve still got the pressure and the expectations and the bad grades of past years, but I’m happy. I don’t want to die anymore, I know there’s no need to be perfect and I have all the time in the world.

    Sorry for the long reply. Just remember that you’re not alone and it’ll be okay. And let me know if you ever want to talk! 🙂

  • in reply to: Need ideas for tween bathing time engagement/activities. Mt #104856

    I know there are bath paints, basically like colored soap that can be used to paint the walls of the bathtub. Maybe if she likes to paint you could try that? Otherwise i’d suggest taking showers and finishing them as quickly as possible. Personally I sing or zone out in the shower once i’ve finally gotten the motivation to get in. My younger siblings keep bubbles in the shower to blow and i’m guilty of getting distracted by their toys occasionally.

  • in reply to: Does screen time really cause add? #104813

    If you’re looking for answers, I’d say look at the studies yourself. Do some research, but take everything with a grain of salt. Personally, I don’t think screens could possibly cause a major neurodevelopmental disorder with what seems to be genetic influences. You’re right about adhd kids seeking stimulation, though. Many of us love games and TV and other stimulating screens. But if screens directly caused it, the entire generation would have adhd.

    If you want a personal example, my little siblings are only 3 years apart. They’ve been raised almost identically, and both spend a lot of time playing video games. The older one has shown signs of adhd since he was very young, and it became very obvious once he started school. He is now 10 years old and is undergoing formal diagnosis. My little sister, however, is vastly different from my brother and I. She has an astounding ability to focus, and already displays executive functioning skills that took me years longer to develop. She doesn’t forget things, and consistently reminds my brother and I of what we we’re doing, and she’s only 7! We’re pretty confident that she doesn’t have adhd. However, she’s spent just as much time as my brother playing games. Perhaps even more, because she finishes her homework much faster!

    I personally think adhd is greatly influenced by a genetic component, but we don’t actually know what causes adhd. There is no proof that screens don’t cause adhd, but the likelihood of TV being the reason you and your son have adhd is negligible. You probably aren’t responsible for your son’s adhd, except perhaps by providing some of the genes necessary to develop it. Don’t feel too guilty. ADHD is a part of your lives, and, in this day and age, so are screens.

  • in reply to: Unsure and lost #107570

    It sounds like going to your school counselor or psychologist is probably a good first step if you don’t think your parents are going to help.

  • in reply to: getting through the school year/dealing with referrals #105249

    Maybe some sort of allowance or way to make money through doing work around the house could help? It’d probably help him understand how other kids feel having their money taken, establish a sense of independence, and help him buy things without having to ask.

  • in reply to: I am scared (Sorry for throwing out a lot of stuff) #104948

    That’s awesome, Good luck! Psychology is super fun. I’d study it myself if I had the focus to get through med school lol. Sounds like you’ve got a plan, so have fun!

  • in reply to: Too late for accommodations? #104897

    Thanks for the advice! I’m still not really sure what I’m going to do, but I guess I’ll have to wait and see what improvements I can make on my adhd. I’ve never visited a coach or therapist, probably because of money, to be honest. Do they help a lot? I feel like being able to take a test or timed writing in another room would be amazing, so if there is a way to be able to do something like that I may try to see if I can get a little help. 🙂

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