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  • in reply to: New Relationship Hyperfocus does it return? #180551
    ilovemyadhdman
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    I really hope it works out better for your hesmysoulmate. The only thing I suggest you do is openly communicate with him. Tell him how you feel and what your fears are and ask him what he wants out of the relationship. In my experience, ADHD or not if he wants to be with you he will find a way, and if he doesn’t then there is someone out there who will

    in reply to: New Relationship Hyperfocus does it return? #180317
    ilovemyadhdman
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    Thank you leftie22. I was wondering how to reply to his message, but you are right he doesn’t deserve my time or energy. I doubt he would even care if I did reply anyway. Thank you very much for taking to the time to reply to my message and sending me kindness.

    in reply to: New Relationship Hyperfocus does it return? #180008
    ilovemyadhdman
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    Thank you leftie22 and andydippy. I don’t think that having ADHD is an excuse for his behaviour, maybe I was hoping more for an explanation as to how someone could behave in that way, such big love and then nothing at all (although he did send me a message today like nothing has happened, he doesn’t know I know about the dating sites). I do deserve so much better and he certainty doesn’t deserve someone like me. Thank you for taking time out of your days to send your messages to me, it means more to me than I know how to say. I wish you both big love xxx

    in reply to: New Relationship Hyperfocus does it return? #179911
    ilovemyadhdman
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    thank you so very much limey, AdeleS546 and rosepetal for responding to me. As it turns out my man has joined a number of dating apps, and now has stopped messaging me altogether. it seems as though he is onto the next shiny thing. I still do love him and accept that these are all symptoms of the ADHD mind. There doesn’t seem to much that I can do but wish him well and go and heal. I do appreciate the support that you both offered x

    ilovemyadhdman
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    From my experience, which is not a lot, it is not abnormal behaviour. It is the thrill of the chase and the challenge. I think the only solution is for them to want to change their behaviour. This can happen through habit changes, medication and therapy. It may be an explanation of his behaviour, but it doesn’t make it excusable.

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