Our situation was just like yours. I had finally gotten my 12, now 13 year old an IEP and he finally had As and Bs 3rd quarter, then failed the last quarter. Now they are planning a hybrid version of school which will not work at all. I have done an actual online school with my kids before and it was much better structure and easier for me to help them too.
Just want you to know you are so not alone!! I am a widowed ADHD mother of 4 kids all with some form of ADHD. I have been fighting with schools for so long, it’s getting harder to stay calm more and more. And now with my last 2 being in middle School and high school I am starting to wonder who I am. And I’m not doing so well with my own identity and emotions these days. So I sometimes just make sure I am putting one foot in front of the other so I am at least moving forward. And I pray a lot!