hesmysoulmate

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  • in reply to: ADD research project #183182
    hesmysoulmate
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    I was just diagnosed this year (age 41) and am a classic ADHD Inattentive – now I know why I do the things I do! Marie

    in reply to: New Relationship Hyperfocus does it return? #180549
    hesmysoulmate
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    There is so much similar to my experience that I could have almost written the same post. I sure hope his hyper focus returns – in fact I am counting on it. This amazing man I met with ADHD had a negative past also – different past – yet it helped me to understand this wonderful, fragile person that I feel like few people actually see. We dated for a month and he kept in touch during COVID although I had to go home (which was 500 miles away during that time). Apparently he met someone during COVID and started dating – timing about the end of our month together. He still texts me and he still says he misses me and I’m not sure if he is still with this girl or not. His behavior in general is sporadic so even when we did date it was hit/miss when we actually got together. I miss him so much. I fell really hard for him – in fact he swept me away. Still hoping….

    in reply to: New to dating a guy with ADHD – Need advice #174215
    hesmysoulmate
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    Yes he does have medication that he takes. Sometimes I can tell when he is off them or when he has not renewed them in time. However, I do notice during those times he is supplementing with marijuana because I can smell it on him. I wish I could get closer to him so I can let him know how special he is and how I appreciate him (without acting like his mother). And Yes, he does see a therapist and has been for years.
    Thank you for the advice.. I will look up the Melissa Orlove book. I am saddened at this time because two days ago he said he couldn’t meet me because he was having a drink with a girl he is dating, which came out of no where since literally the week before he said he isn’t dating. My friend thinks he got scared and just said that – not sure what’s going on, but I am his friend and that doesn’t stop me from loving him.

    in reply to: New to dating a guy with ADHD – Need advice #174188
    hesmysoulmate
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    I am so happy and relieved to read what others have posted here. I am head over heels for an amazing man with ADHD and I am having a really hard time trying to navigate just setting up times to see him. I do feel like I am nagging but he happily replies and it doesn’t seem to bother him but it is way out of my comfort zone to do the asking out. He doesn’t plan well. Today I asked him when he was free but I know he got consumed with work so here it is dinner time and no reply yet. Tomorrow is another day. I just miss being with him so much but am learning to understand that the lack of taking charge and planning and the other things he does are not a reflection of how he feels about me which is still hard to understand. I feel like, if he cared about me near as much as I do about him, he wouldn’t forget to get back with me with a time. I feel lonely a lot but being with him makes up for all of it.
    I want to be his girlfriend and not his mother or just a friend. What is the best way to get him to respond without being too pushy? How can I not be forgotten amid the things that consume his mind? I would just love if he would text me out of the blue and ask me to dinner and actually followup. Our times together are great and he says how much he enjoys them and he does so many thoughtful and sweet things. He’s a great guy and I just need to understand him better. Please post any advice. He is so special and fragile and amazing and I want to be there for him.

    in reply to: New to dating a guy with ADHD – Need advice #173958
    hesmysoulmate
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    I am so happy and relieved to read what others have posted here. I am head over heels for an amazing man with ADHD and I am having a really hard time trying to navigate just setting up times to see him. I do feel like I am nagging but he happily replies and it doesn’t seem to bother him but it is way out of my comfort zone to do the asking out. He doesn’t plan well. Today I asked him when he was free but I know he got consumed with work so here it is dinner time and no reply yet. Tomorrow is another day. I just miss being with him so much but am learning to understand that the lack of taking charge and planning and the other things he does are not a reflection of how he feels about me which is still hard to understand. I feel like, if he cared about me near as much as I do about him, he wouldn’t forget to get back with me with a time. I feel lonely a lot but being with him makes up for all of it.
    I want to be his girlfriend and not his mother or just a friend. What is the best way to get him to respond without being too pushy? How can I not be forgotten amid the things that consume his mind? I would just love if he would text me out of the blue and ask me to dinner and actually followup. Our times together are great and he says how much he enjoys them and he does so many thoughtful and sweet things. He’s a great guy and I just need to understand him better. Please post any advice. He is so special and fragile and amazing and I want to be there for him.

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