Frasern1963

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  • in reply to: Older adults in Australia please #133289

    Frasern1963
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    Hi, I’m 56, based in Tassie, and was diagnosed earlier this year as ADHD Inattentive type. It is such a relief to read what other people are sharing (that doesn’t quite read right, but…) because it really brings it home to me that I am not alone, there are others out there with similar experiences. When I read about people procrastinating badly, being distracted, in denial, I can understand how that feels because I have SO been there.
    I always coped – more or less – with the ADHD, but recently the rejection sensitivity seems to be getting a lot worse – causing problems between my wife and I. Funny, but I don’t seem to have the same issues at work. maybe its something to do with the reduced emotional connection to work colleagues compared to a spouse?
    Anyway, I have chosen to manage the ADHD without stimulant medication, I know myself well enough to know that if I go onto meds I will “relax” and think that is “better enough” so won’t work on all the other aspects which need attention to really improve the situation. So, I am trying to do this the “hard” way, managing diet, exercise, hydration (a biggy), as well as bring in mindfulness and journalling. I would love to hear comments from others about their experience around that, or just their experience in general.

  • in reply to: Older adults in Australia please #134360

    Frasern1963
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    So, don’t answer if the question is out of line, but how did you go with getting off the meds? I am told that they aren’t physically addictive, but i was quite concerned about the emotional/psychological addiction question – i.e. “I don’t think I could manage without them” type of reaction.

  • in reply to: Older adults in Australia please #134185

    Frasern1963
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    Hi Tikay,
    Yes, Tassie is a fantastic place to live, but the downside is finding consistent work – that can be tricky depending what you do.
    I really need the structure and routine of regular work to keep me focused and on track, otherwise I can really crash.

    On the rejection sensitivity, I find that when someone (but especially my wife) tells me about something I “could have done better”, I get really defensive at first, then I start feeling enormously depressed and hopeless – not a great outcome. It is usually so out of proportion with whatever the conversation was about, that I often can’t even remember what started the whole thing off. But this is far worse than it ever used to be – whether it is changing due to age or something I don’t know, but its a pain!

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