My Forum Comments
It’s not just us… http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1087054713510561
Glad you asked this. I’ve always wondered wth happened to me that caused me to block out so much of my childhood, my 2 sisters remembered a lot more than I did, and with more detail. My childhood wasn’t great, but it wasn’t so bad that I needed to dissociate. I guess because we have “interest based” nervous systems a lot of it was just not interesting enough to remember ? Not sure how that works to be honest.
I agree that structuring chores works best, a clear understanding of who does what & when. Also.. I have a son who I think may also be ADHD like me (I just realized I am at age 56) I only get him to do something if I am blunt and to the point.. nagging, and/or yelling makes it worse. Just say something like “do the dishes b****h .. and walk away” .. and he does them ! lol
Yes Drofas ! I self diagnosed recently and I’m 58 now. With the realization that I have been this way my whole life.. pretty proud and happy with all the coping strategies I developed without the knowledge that it was ADHD 🙂 I am fairly organized at work.. just don’t look in my home.. and especially not my closets… piles of everything .. lol !
Sorry it’s so bad for you Butterfly. Loving all of the thoughtful responses. I’m new to this site. I just self diagnosed ADHD,at age 56, .. checked off 22 of 21 symptoms, I also have rejection sensitive dysphoria. Lots of AHA moments. I have struggled my whole life.. job losses .. etc. Saving grace has been humor and optimism, and talking to myself about how badass I must be to be able to cope. I have never been, nor do I want to be medicated.
I would be careful about meds .. be sure they are not causing the depression and suicidal thoughts. I lost my sister three years ago.. she was bi-polar.. I believe the meds did much more harm than good.
If you can, speak to a therapist that fully understands ADHD. That might be most helpful. Reach out to local groups that might be able to help in the short term.. my worst times were when funds were low. Reading about ADHD is helpful, just be sure not to isolate yourself. I wish you the best.